Friday, March 30, 2012

IN THE SCHEME OF THINGS

It is TGIF.  Have a good day and a peaceful weekend. Find ways to take care of you as well as others you love.

Time flies whether you are having fun or not so you better have some fun.

Bye for Now,

bill

Thursday, March 29, 2012

THE OTHER DAY

I spoke about the importance of rituals. What is interesting is that they change according to culture, religion, and the times.

Who would have ever thought 20 years ago, or even 10, that we would be staring at our phones all day long? So many rituals have changed in such a short time, thanks to Harvard dropouts and the like.

I wonder about the stories our grandchildren and great grandchildren will tell based on our contemporary rituals. I hope they will be better than "angry birds really pissed me off today!" Even better will be those who say, "My grandparents, who are computer clueless, really pissed me off today. I don't mind at all being linked with angry birds and I imagine you don't either!

Do you even know angry birds? I don't either, but do know many pissed off people.

Enjoy the happy rituals and let the rest go. As someone recently said, "We are all one tweet away from making a fool of ourselves." The question is do angry birds (or people) tweet?

I will start very soon. I want to be a 70 year old tweeting grandpa. I don't think mine could even whistle—let alone a happy tune.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

An idealist believes the short run doesn't count. A cynic believes the long run doesn't matter. A realist believes that what is done or left undone in the short run determines the long run.

Jim Moran, a man I greatly admired, used to say, "The future belongs to those who prepare for it."

I could not agree more. Let's get working on our prep and plan right now!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

I WENT TO A LOVELY WEDDING ON SUNDAY

and another, a month or so ago. It made me think about the importance of ritual as well as the rituals within rituals that occur in all of life's passages. The date of the ritual, from birth to death and all steps in between create anniversaries, which in themselves become rituals. So, in an interesting way, rituals give birth to more rituals

And as a result of rituals we create stories which can be passed along like canapes on a tray, to be consumed and enjoyed. Here is one:

I knew the mother of the bride on Sunday even before she was born. I was probably about 8 when her mother was pregnant. I recall asking my mother  how that happened—"How do woman get pregnant," I asked, always being the curious type. "I'll have to take you to the Museum of Natural History and show you,"she thoughtfully said. Keep in mind these were the sounds of silence '50's. There was no further discussion.

So, for a long time thereafter, I  believed that women went to the museum to become pregnant. Seemed like a silly ritual to me way back then, but the world was a bit naive and perhaps we were all better off.

I must admit to being a bit disappointed when she finally took me to the exhibit at the museum which showed a series of pictures, behind a large glass panel, of the evolution from conception to the birth of a baby. I still didn't know how it all really happened for quite a while. Once I did get the facts of life straight, it seemed like a much better ritual than going to a museum. In fact, to this day I am still not big on museums.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, March 26, 2012

FRIDAY

I said the most important things in life are loving and laughing. I left out learning and probably many others things as well.

I guess the most important things in life are the things most important to you. Whatever they are, please go for them. I hope that part of what is important to you is other people. Self-absorption is not a positive attribute.

I spoke to a man I admire on Saturday who said, "If I disrespect you I disrespect myself. if I love you, give to you, and care about you compassionately, I give those very things to myself as well.

I like that thought a lot. Think about it.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, March 23, 2012

THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE ARE

LAUGHING AND LOVING and taking care of ourselves while we take care of others. Keep doing that every day and you will fill your pride bank.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, March 22, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

I believe that for us to go forward as a society, right now there's a big crisis. There's a crisis of confidence, a crisis of honesty—a crisis of doing the right thing.
--Christopher Reeve

Christopher sadly died a long time ago. Yet his words are as true today as they were then. Double sad.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

THERE ARE NO COINCIDENCES—ONLY OPPORTUNITIES

In a room of 150 people at Gilda's Club workshop a woman sat down next to me. "What brings you here?" I asked.  "My husband has lymphoma," she quietly answered.

So I immediately handed her one of my books and in our back and forth banter we became instant friends. Not sure where this will all lead, but I am sure to something positive and worthwhile.

So important to stretch beyond our shy comfort zone and reach out and touch someone. You just never know what opportunities await. Took me a long time to learn this, but glad I did.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

WEEKENDS COME AND GO

BUT SOME ARE SPECIAL AND THIS ONE WAS FOR US. 

I met some neat people at a Gilda's Club function on Saturday, had a wild and not so crazy lunch at Flannigan's on St. Patty's Day and welcomed some newly found cousins 50 years+ later on Sunday.

You just never know what's coming around the corner and hopefully it is a "good one" for you!

The more you anticipate positive happenings, the more they will meet you on your home turf.


Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, March 19, 2012

I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE

ANY AND ALL to read a book called Smart Relationships by Joan Chamberlain, M.S.  She packs much wisdom into this user-friendly book.

I learned a lot about me and about you. I am a superiority and pleaser type. What about you?


Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, March 16, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave.
—Calvin Coolidge

I think he is talking about the "pride bank" here. Fill yours daily. And it applies equally to "shes" though back in those days it was a "he man" world.


Bye For Now,


Bill

Thursday, March 15, 2012

THESE LITTLE PEARLS OF WISDOM

probably don't reach many people, but if they reach you I am happy.

Helping the masses is a nice fantasy—helping one person is a nice reality.

Reach out and help someone today. I guarantee you it will feel good. When we help others we help ourselves. You can take that to the "pride bank" everyday.

 Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

READJUSTING AND RECALIBRATING OUR SELVES

Life is complicated but so are we. There is no better, more able species in the world than the strength and adaptability of the human being.

Think of today and tomorrow as an opportunity to make it different, better, and more balanced...and go for it. What really do you have to lose?

The same old is the old same. Take some small risks and see what happens. You can always retreat, but perhaps this time you will  find a new you an improvement. You just never know.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

We love those people who give with humility, or who accept with ease.
—Freya Stark

True merit, like a river, the deeper it is, the less noise it makes.
—George Savile

The world would be a wonderful place if everyone was as nice as the person  who's trying to sell you something.
—James Kyle


NICE!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, March 12, 2012

GRATITUDE HELPS YOUR ATTITUDE!

The old adage is that if you take meds for a cold it should go away in about 7 days. If you don't it will last about a week.

When one is not feeling up to par and then par returns, it reminds us of the need for us to feel grateful for the little things in life. As those of you who read this blog know, I am a big believer in feeling grateful every day for what we can and what we have. Even when we are not feeling physically well there are many gratitude opportunities.

Remember, to feel grateful every day. It is "milk for you mind" and will bring some positive feelings with it. And if you take your "gratitude medicine" every day, perhaps your cold will only last 6 days as did mine.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, March 9, 2012

COLD STILL KICKING MY BUTT

But i don't really care because at my age a cold is nothing but a nuisance.

Try to use this model to modify and shift your lens from awful to not so bad, from terrible to manageable, from worst case to what's the worst that can happen?

Strengthen your voice of reassurance every day and all outcomes will be better. I believe in a horse named Hope and hope you will too.

Talk to yourself as you would a friend and you will feel better. Our self-negating, dissing, drama queen voice may be buried within, BUT we can change the script and feel better—even with a cold.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, March 8, 2012

CAME BACK FROM A TRIP

with a cold. What is a cold? Nothing. Absolutely nothing but a nuisance in the scheme of things.

This is what Wayne and I mean when we speak of changing how we see things. If I view my cold as Gd awful, miserable, painful, etc. i add to my woes. if I see it as nothing in the scheme of health and risk and temporary and just annoying, I prevent it from taking me down further.

You know what, I am happy I have a cold. it is a lot better than other ailments and I was due.

Hip Hip Hurray for colds. They ground us to the realities of health and make us appreciate it is only that. I feel grateful.

Wayne would be proud and so am I.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
-Wayne Dyer

Elegant and simple statement that supports many of the previous blogs. Try to see things realistically, but positively. The more optimistic you can be the more positive things and you will be. I think that is what Wayne is saying.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

YESTERDAY'S BLOG

WAS SIMPLE BUT CLEAR.

We are too prone to blunt our happiness by dissing ourselves too quickly, and too frequently, for too many minor "infractions." Try to talk to you the way you talk to others. Kindly, compassionately, fairly and caringly. "Why?" you ask. Simply because you deserve it!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, March 5, 2012

WORDS WORTH READING

"When I was 5 years old my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment. I told them they didn't understand life."
 - John Lennon

Friday, March 2, 2012

APPROPOS OF MONDAYS BLOG AND MY APOLOGY

It is often easier to fight for principles than to live up to them.

—Adlai Stevenson

I hope you can talk the talk and walk the walk.It is easy to slip and fall and often not so easy to right the wrong.


Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, March 1, 2012

WHETHER WE FEEL GRATITUDE?

I have previously commented that gratitude, in my opinion, is milk for the mind. It helps us to feel and be "DAM STRONG!"

Last week I began feeling grateful for our amazing weather. Overall, it has been the most glorious winter I can remember. The same is true in many parts of the country that are usually much colder.

Today, think of five things, in addition to the weather, for which you feel grateful. It will brighten your mood and put a smile on your face.

I once read a book called, "Happiness is a Choice." Oftentimes it truly is. Have a good day today and tomorrow and most days too.

Bye For Now,


Bill