Tuesday, January 31, 2012


The more I ponder the universe, the more I conclude that there are no coincidences.  Everything happens for a reason. All of the people we meet in our life journey are there for a reason; sometimes we never get to figure it out. Other times it becomes clear as time goes by.

Keep a watchful eye for what seems like serendipity. Quite often it is much more than just a coincidence.

Anyone know how many meals they have eaten in their lifetime? Just curious. No harm meant! Okay! A silly question...but want to hazard a guess?

Bye For Now,


Monday, January 30, 2012


Last week I wondered and pondered about words that end in ship. It is symptomatic of my asking questions for which no real/clear answer exists.

For example, How many meals have I eaten in my life? or How many times I made love to my wife? How many sessions have I had trying to help people? How many times have I driven back and forth to my home, emailed, or phoned a friend without Regis' permission?

Do you ask similar questions? I hope so because that is a sign of a well-rounded mind or perhaps a lost one, I can't be sure.. All this week I will address this issue.

I hope you will wonder and ponder what I might say. Or maybe you just don't give a darn. Shame on you. You need to get a grip on that which is grip-less.

Bye For Now,


Friday, January 27, 2012


There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope.

—Bern Williams

Thursday, January 26, 2012

App Propo of Tuesday's Blog

App Surd!

Do you want the following apps on your smart phone:

Makes it tun into an electric razor for men or women.

Turns into a continuous vibrator for personal private pleasures.

Sterilizes toilet seats in public places with a spritz.

Grills one hamburger or hot dog.

Turns on lights, TV's, etc. in your home with a flick of the wrist.

Let's you easily eavesdrop on your friend's or neighbor's fights.

Weeds and feeds your grass or lights it.

Sprays a bum at the red light who tries to spray your windshield.

Reads your local newspaper and gives you an executive summary depending on your interests.

Calls special people in your life and says "love you-all is well" without your having to deal with them and their annoying ways.

Instant sobriety test passer-a wake up call.

Turns into a rest room when you are really desperate.

Enables you to pay bills without cash or credit cards by tapping.

The last one is being developed and will be here soon. The others are still in the pilot stage.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, January 25, 2012


that there is no such thing as a coincidence. In the book I say, "Sometimes serendipity seems like more than just a coincidence."

I am now willing to go a little further and say much of the time coincidence masks "meant to be." In Judaism, the word for that is "bashert." Yet, I believe it applies to all religions.

I connect with people in all sorts of "bashert" ways and I bet you do too. Otherwise why would you be reading this blog? It was meant to be.

Be on the lookout for these "coincidences" every day and it will truly amaze you in many simple ways.

Let the force (whatever that is) be with you in many positive ways.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, January 24, 2012


Yesterday, some one made a crack about "crack berrys" referring to our addiction to staring at our phones. I immediately thought that applies to "I candy" too. The latter term used to refer to hot chicks. Now it refers to I phone pics.

Wherever I go people are romancing their phone. They look at them in the middle of dinner, at the gym, in waiting rooms, and just about everywhere and anywhere. I can only hope that lovemaking is spared the stare at a smart phone, simply because it would not be so smart to do that at that sacred and special time. Yet, I am pretty sure some watch virtual porn on their cell phones while they are doing it for real. Or they take video on their smart phones while they are doing it on their beds. Just don't text your Mom in the middle of tangling the sheets. For goodness sakes, what could you possibly say—"Things are coming along fine, how about you?" "Going down now. Call you when I get back up... to the apartment." Crude and rude!

But here is what distresses me. Walking out of Publix last nite (see yesterdays blog) a guy was so intent on his "I candy" that he bumped right into me and so engrossed in its content that he didn't even say he was sorry. Must have been watching porn or the video of his last encounter. I wished I had filmed him bumping into me, but as luck would have it I left my I phone in the car. And even if I had it, figuring out how to video would have taken us right up to breakfast.

In all zones in life there is a balance to be achieved. I sincerely hope you find it soon, if you haven't already. Smart phones are wonderful devices, when used smartly.

Bye for Now,


Monday, January 23, 2012


In my book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer," I say, "You just never know from where your next inspiration may come."

As if to prove the point I chatted with the customer service man at Publix a week ago, after complimenting him on his trim appearance. Fortunately, he didn't think I was hitting on him. He told me, "I am very disciplined and I try my best not to eat processed food."

He helped me again tonight return 421(an exaggeration) bottles of unused soda from the book launch party—and he was patient and pleasant. I inquired about his "diet." He told me the name of the book which I won't yet reveal until I read it.

But, I ordered it on my kindle tonight and will see if it can guide me back to my former body that was lean but never mean. I also excitedly ordered my book on my kindle tonight as it just went live there.

My major point is that in my younger days I was shy to the point of probably being accused of being aloof. Now I talk to many and seek inspiration wherever I can find it.

I encourage you to do the same. You just never know......

Bye for Now,


Friday, January 20, 2012


just popped into my mind today. I hope I haven't stolen it from anyone else:

Vanity is a maiden that really never leaves our side. But, there is a huge difference between vanity and narcissism! The former is self-preserving; the latter is just plain selfish.

As proof my Mom was 98+ and would only allow photos taken from her "good" side. But, she was never full of herself.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, January 19, 2012


Still recovering from the birthday and book launch party Saturday nite with 80+ in attendance that je suis forgot about my blog yesterday and today. I guess my stressed mindly matters blocked my writing mindly matters.

If you haven't already please check out cancerville.com. You can see the Table of Contents and read the Preface and Intro. If you check it out at amazon.com you can read random pages. If you do fbook please go the the cancerville.com fbook page and "like"it. Same for family and friends who do fbook. If you do not know what fbook means no worries.

If you wish to buy a copy of my book please email me directly as readers of my blog will receive a 20% discount and free shipping.

May you never need to read my books except out of curiosity.

Tomorrow I plan to begin serious blogging again. I promise never to abandon ship like you know who!

Bye for Now,


Tuesday, January 17, 2012


This morning I was thinking again about the occupier 99 percenters. I try my best to stay away from the political fray so as to avoid the inevitable bickering that is part of that scene.

But, as I reflected, I realized that throughout time—from when cattle was chattel— to every country/economy of the world, there has always been an inequitable distribution of moola. Pick a place and I will prove that point. Everywhere and anywhere there are always the one percenters—by hook, crook, hard work, or good fortune. From Wall Street to the Great Wall and all points in between, as the adage goes, the rich get richer and the poor have babies. This is just the way it is, has always been, and will always be!

Now if the 99%ers want to be part of the 1%ers, I suggest they stop annoyingly occupying public spaces and get a job, work their asses off, and succeed. No one gets paid for sitting on their ass in the park or freezing them off best as I know.

Bye For Now,


Monday, January 16, 2012


Has always been one of my main heroes.

I have a dream that he is smiling down on us, happy to have fulfilled so many of his dreams.

He was a great man in every important respect. He made our country so much stronger and more civil in his fight for civil rights.

I am quite sure Gd has blessed him.

Bye Fot Now,


Friday, January 13, 2012

I TOAST TO A YEAR OF SAFER DRIVING (with nonalcoholic sparkling!)

As many of you know one of my few pet peeves is that Floridians are allowed to talk on cell phones, text, check email, and buy things on-line while driving. This is the height of insanity and stupidity—and it is dangerous.

So when I headed for Publix after parking my car I didn't see that the Beamer to my right had a driver inside because of the overly dark window tinting. So as I stepped behind the vehicle it literally leaped out as if fueled by jet propulsion. I was able to do a fast back step like an accomplished square dancer—which I am not unless under life and death pressure.

The tool of a fool at the wheel never noticed that he almost hit me, as I caught a glimpse of him talking away sans seat belt, and sans earpiece, on his cell.

I wish him and all like him a healthy and safe new year—but frankly I doubt that will be the case. These morons will make it a very lucrative year for the attorneys who ultimately represent them.

It is time for our state government to finally wake up, take off their blinders and dark tinting, and pass a law.

I couldn't help but wonder if the guy behind the wheel of the Beamer was an official. Lest you think I jest last week a law enforcement officer was texting while driving and I so wished I caught a pic on my phone—but that would be hypocritical wouldn't it? One needs to stay true to one's pet peeves!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, January 12, 2012


and fill our pride banks.

Success without honor is an unseasoned dish; it will satisfy your hunger, but it won't taste good.
Joe Paterno

Not sure what to say here. You fill in the blanks!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, January 11, 2012


I try to stay away from politics BUT donkey or elephant the thrashing, trashing,and bashing of the less than dashing GOP candidates that change favor faster than the flavor of the week demeans their party, politicians in general, and the US of A.

How about if all who run take an oath of pre-office that says: Thou shalt not add to the chaos, confusion, conflict, and comedy that most campaigns create. I  must rally not distort reality.

How about if politicians run on their credentials rather than their sarcasm.

How about if those striving for power show that they can manage it maturely.

Well, then it wouldn't be politics, would it? Sad to say, probably not!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, January 10, 2012


With protest groups cropping up all over the place let us not forget the locker room. Some days they are quiet, while others are quite vocal. I am a quiet locker room inhabitant, but a keen listener.

When it is all about, "Hey, How are you? See the hot chick on the treadmill?"  it is pretty mild and somewhat boring. But when it is "occupy" my ears perk up.

Naked men can strip the problems down to their bare butts. All comments include the f word. The politicians.... The lawyers..... The corporations and their CEO's!... The docs and /or the insurance companies. The comments are endless and all about every important person/group they can think of in the moment as they dry off.

My take is both all and none of the above. I want to scream it is a good world order, despite the disorder. I want to  say, "chill and own your own stuff!" But I hold my tongue as some of these pontificators are muscular, some are big fat guys, and some have a six pack tonque and I am quiet locker room inhabitant—especially when I am naked!

I am betting on a better world order down the road. Optimism trumps negativity and occupier—dressed or nude.

Bye for Now,


Monday, January 9, 2012


is an old established idea about people with anxiety. We can go one way or the other—run away or stand our ground!

But I think it goes well beyond that. There are those who fight to overcome and standup to their problems and those who flee, deny them, and allow them to continue. We can be the worst enablers of ourselves in so many areas and in so many ways.

Make it your mission this year to fight to right the balance of your life. Fight to make consistent "pride bank" deposits, while minimizing or eliminating "shame and blame" entries.

Eleven is supposed to be a lucky number. If it wasn't for you, try to make 2012 your strongest, happiest, and most fulfilling year in a long time. Remember the sign in my office: "Never, never, never give up!

Make this year, "DAM STRONG!" You can get a purple bracelet at cancerville.com and the money goes to charity.

Bye for Now,


Friday, January 6, 2012


to meet new people in the new year. You just never know where your next moment of inspiration, appreciation, or socialization may be hiding.

Most people tend to stay within their narrow and comfortable social boundaries. Stretch just a little.  Say high to a stranger in a safe setting.

"Have a great day" is redundant and meaningless. "I'm Bill, who are you?" works, unless your name is not Bill. Take a chance, gamble on asserting yourself in a friendly way. What do you really have to lose? You just never know who might be your new best friend or acquaintance.

Bye for Now,


Thursday, January 5, 2012


We had the pleasure of  recently sailing on a cruise ship where Dr. Ruth (Westheimer that is) was speaking three times about sexuality and aging. She is a delightful woman full of vim, vigor, and vitality. Her eyes twinkle, her accent beguiles, and her height is so non-threatening that she can say anything and get away with it. It was a  ballroom dancing cruise and she did every single night. No obvious aging for her!

In one of her talks she spoke of the importance of a relationship as opposed to a meaningless and possibly risky sexual encounter. My mind, as it often does, went on a free associative dance of its own. Relationship...Partnership...Scholarship...Internship...Worship...Citizenship...Fellowship...  And there we were on a ship!

What, I wondered,were all these words ending with the suffix ship all about?  Apparently, that ship suffix means connected—which makes good sense when you think about it. And, in many ways, when you are on a ship we are all connected to each other in a supportive and social way. So it all makes perfectly good sense.

My body may not dance that much anymore, but my mind does it gracefully. Hope that makes our "Friendship" via  this blog a close connection.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, January 4, 2012


Time flies...spend it with people who mean the most to you.

Footprints on the sands of time are not made by sitting down.

It is easier to resist at the beginning than at the end.

Kindness is never wasted. If it has no effect on the recipient, at least it benefits the bestower.

Bye For Now,


Sunday, January 1, 2012


Ready or not here it is and here you are and hope you make the most of it.

Bye for Now,