Monday, October 31, 2011

Je Ne Comprend Pas

I am not a lawyer, so I am not writing this from a legally informed point of view. Take it with a grain or pound of salt.

I am a psychologist, but I am not writing this from that point of view either.

I am writing this from the point of view of a confused and curious person.

Claw back. What exactly does that mean? If I am a jewelry store and innocently sell merchandise to a presumed "hi successful roller" who turns out to be a crook why am I responsible to give back all he or she paid me—especially when the bankruptcy attorneys sold the jewelry I sold in good faith to the crook?

Let's say a person of ill repute came to see me for help. I saw them  and billed them $10,000 for my services over many months of time. I was unaware that the money they paid me was illegally obtained. This hasn't happened, but it could have. Am I then responsible to refund what I earned  for my time and help? There is something wrong with this. I would be an innocent man!

Claw backs have many draw backs, not the least of which is penalizing the wrong people. There is a clear and clean line between innocent merchants or providers of service and crooks. I think those in charge of bankruptcy proceedings need to heed those lines.  Then again, what do I know?

 Bye For Now,


Friday, October 28, 2011


"Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but won't get you anywhere."

Undeniably correct, but not easy to correct. Better to rock calmly whenever you can!

Bye for Now,


Thursday, October 27, 2011


When I walk in the park almost every day i have noticed there are those who say HI and those who just walk on by. There are even some who when I say HI  don't say anything.

Not sure why South Florida has so many asocial folk.  In other places it is very different. There, people say, "HI, How are you?...Beautiful day...Enjoy your walk. Here a grunt is actually a better than a nothing response.

So be a HIer and a more pleasant person—actually smile sweetly as the gal did the other day. It will make you feel good and me as well if I am walking by you in the park. What does it cost, really?

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, October 26, 2011


The other day I thought that it feels like summer just began a week or so ago and here comes Halloween, followed by Thanksgiving. Christmas will be here faster than we know.

I thought perhaps that was related to my getting older, so I asked a few younger people and they agreed that time seems so accelerated these days.

Today I walked into Sams and was left momentarily speechless by the artificial Xmas trees and decorations displayed prominently at the front of the store. They appeared like an army marching in place announcing that Christmas is around the corner—and indeed I guess it is—maybe not even that far.

I have always said, "Time flies whether you're having fun or not so you better have some fun." I mean, like NOW!!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, October 25, 2011

DO A MITZVA (good deed)

Try to do something nice for someone this week—it can even be a small thing—and you will see how nice it feels.

Mitzva's come back at us in all kinds of ways—they pay many dividends that no money can buy.

Try it you will like it.

Bye For Now,


Monday, October 24, 2011


The only thing that sat its way to success was a hen.

You don't start climbing a mountain to get to the middle. Why be content with being average.
—James Hart

There is a close correlation between getting up in the morning and getting up in the world.
—Ron Dentinger

and something Mr. Jim Moran (the Toyota founder and chief executive at JM Family Enterprises) taught all he could before he passed a few years ago:

                              "We can always do more and we can always do better."

and he always did!

Bye For Now,


Friday, October 21, 2011


Truth hurts—not the searching after; the running from.

Truth! "Da Nile" isn't just a river in Egypt. It is a corosive force that can create chaos and destroy lives.

Bye for Now,


Thursday, October 20, 2011


I ask people, "How are you doing?" That despite my Mom teaching me not to talk to strangers!

More and more the response is, "Hanging in there."  Now hanging in is better than hanging it up or hanging oneself, BUT it is not a strong response. It is a sign of these complicated and confusing times. Many are struggling.

If you use that term I encourage you to change it to, "Doing just fine, thank you."  Self-fulfilling prophecy is still alive and well. The more we believe in ourselves and our futures, the more those beliefs translate into doing better and better.

Hang in, hang out, and hang strong. Believe that there are better times coming. They usually do.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, October 19, 2011


When we visited our son in St.Thomas last week  a million bees or so it seemed, appeared at noonish. They kept us in one day for more than an hour. Cowards we are!

We were told that they were swarming because of the full moon.  Never saw anything like it before except on TV. Thank goodness he had a window in his kitchen that showed us this amazing, but scary sight, just a few feet from the front door.

Knew instantly where the phrase, "Mind your own beeswax," came from. Definitely need to google bees and a full moon to learn more. I thought only us human "beeins" reacted to that monthly happening hysterically. We had no problems that I know of with the moon, but many with the bees.

This adds a whole new meaning to the phrase, "What's buzzing cousin?" and leads one to think we should all travel with the antidote to a bee sting or two.

Buzz (I mean Bye) for Now,


Tuesday, October 18, 2011


it truly is a wonderful world. Your goal for today and everyday really, is to identify as many things as you can—small as they may be—that prove that point.

There is a prize if you can find more than five. That prize is your enjoying a happier day.

Bye for Now,


Monday, October 17, 2011


Who does not thank for little will not thank for much.

I agree. Gratitude helps your Attitude, I always say!

Bye For Now,


Saturday, October 15, 2011


Apropos of yesterday's blog:

You will only be remembered for two things: the problems you solve or the one's you create.

Mike Murdock

I don't think this is  precisely true as I would hope to be remembered for more than problems—solved or otherwise. But better to be a solver than a causer!

Bye for Now,


Friday, October 14, 2011


This blog continues yesterday's.

I had a couple or three incidents this summer that were very frustrating. The common denominator was that people I had paid significant money to had let me down. I don't suffer inequity gladly or well. I went to war—a quiet war of sensible words and rational arguments.

In all cases I lost round one and even two. You might just be hearing the music from Rocky in the back of your mind. I "shlepped" up and down those "steps" and followed the sign in my office that reads, "Never Never Never Give Up!"

I won my battles in the third round all the while being realistically optimistic that I would.

Justice ultimately prevails—not immediately but often when we persevere in a logical and rational way. Solving problems in today's world is not always simple or clear cut. But slow and steady usually wins the race in the long run.

If it is realistic approach all of your struggles and life battles optimistically. It allows you to be less stressed and more powerful. The more powerful you feel the more likely you will be to prevail.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, October 13, 2011


I want you to know that I do practice what I preach.  I use my philosophy of "realistic optimism" all the time. That means be optimistic when it is realistic to be so.

Don't be optimistic when you have drunk too much at a party and think you can drive home safely and without incident. Call a cab or phone a friend. John F Kennedy Jr. was not being realistic when he took his plane up that sad and fateful night. False and unrealistic optimism is inappropriate and can be dangerous.

But  optimism and hopefulness based in reality can be very helpful, uplifting and even rewarding. More on this tomorrow.

Bye For Now,


PS I am optimistic you will read tomorrow's post.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011


Tackling life's challenges is like eating an orange. They're much easier to handle one section at a time.

David Zahka

Tuesday, October 11, 2011


Does anyone really care about Columbus Day other than as a retail promotional event. I mean I never ever heard anyone say, "I can't wait for Columbus Day to come." And I seriously doubt whether people were walking around yesterday excited or thinking about Chris with fond admiration.

Actually the way I remember the story Leif Ericson got here first. Not only that but Spain's crown got ticked off at him  and at one point had him arrested. He and his heirs fought with the Spanish government to get his rightful due. So when you put all that together why do we still celebrate, venerate, and honor him?

I vote that we repeal Columbus Day and replace it with some more important person like Walt Disney, Steve Jobs or Mickey Mantle. At least we know who they are and what they contributed to the world.

Goodbye Columbus!

Bye For Now,


Friday, October 7, 2011


I am really trying hard to relate and to understand this whole new world of the book in your face.

It helps to make friends and to share info and pics. I get that.  But what about all the people on my page who i don't know?  Who are you and what are you doing on my page?And what about all the info on my page that I don't really care that much about? And what am I supposed to be writing about?

Someone should write a book called, "Facebook for Real Dummies," or Fodors Guide to Facebook—2011. I would buy and read them and then know how to behave in this strange new land.

Here is my commitment: I will figure this out and I will post meaningful and significant news and I will tell you every time I take a nap simply because I don't do naps! And I don't really care if/when you do, so please spare me/us that news.

This is all very draining.  I need to rest—but no nap! Of that I am certain. Well, maybe I am taking a nap right now. You will never know for sure.  HA!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, October 6, 2011


It is nice to see the big and brawny football players wearing pink to acknowledge and respect October being Beast Cancer Awareness Month.

All of the people who have donated billons of dollars over many years have made a big difference. Every little bit helps so give something this month to Susan G. Komen and fill your pride bank while giving a little from your piggy bank.

Bye for Now,


Wednesday, October 5, 2011


I am fascinated at the New World Order and its special lexicon:

LOL--Do u think all who use that really did?

The word okay got shortened to ok somewhere along the line. Now k says it all. We people seem to have a need to shorten everything. Someday the dictionary will be called dict or dic and then D or d and some in the future will say what is a dictionary?

BTW(by the way) and BYM(between you and me and OMG and so many others will replace human language and we will spend much of our time emailing,tweeting, texting and facebooking letters instead of words.What will books and magazines or ezines look like? Will anyone care about punctuation? At that time what will English 101 teach?  Abbreviations?

Have a HD(happy day) and BW(be well).

B F N,


Tuesday, October 4, 2011


For the rest of the week try your best to not criticize anything or anyone.  Strive to be non-judgmental. Focus on the positives and try to ignore or look away from that which is annoying, irritating or disappointing.

I am willing to bet that if you feel grateful for what works and ignore what doesn't you will have a better, happier, and more comfortable week. I guarantee it.

Remember--NO BITCHING WHATSOEVER! Ready, get set, GO.

Bye for Now,


Monday, October 3, 2011


In my forthcoming book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer,"  which  I just redited for the 100th+ time the past few days, I say, "There are many paths to heaven only one of which is cancer."

As if to validate that statement there was sad and sorry news this week of another big C--Cantelope! Can u believe that eating a healthy fruit can kill you--weeks after you have injested it? OMG was my reaction. Who would ever think that your life could be on the line because you ate something healthy? Lettuce too has been implicated. It was meat a few years ago. Yougart and tofu can't be far behind.

I don't write this to scare you, but just to make you aware of how precious each day of our life is and how we need to be grateful for having dodged yet another bullet. And how we need to send our sympathies to those who were eating healthy and became terminally ill--15 by last count. What a sad and sorry state of affairs.

It all goes to prove my belief that "You just never know what's coming around the corner," which ties into my other belief which is "Time flies whether you are having fun or not so please have some fun!" And we won't be eating Cantelope in my house for a while, don't you know.Lettuce is still here but on the worry/wash throughly list.

Many years ago I said, "It is not paranoid to be paranoid these days!" I think I was right, but for the fact paranoia is not prevention.

Bye For Now,