Saturday, December 31, 2011


and I deserve to be after the grueling five months of editing that has finally birthed a book. And I am not really being lazy as I have been working on the next book.

But here are a few thoughts for you as we head into 2012:

Every New Year offers an opportunity to clear the slate of all the miscues, problems, traumas, and even tragedies and start anew.
Every New Year offers an opportunity to reset those resolutions from last year that slipped by you and/or establish new ones.
Every New Year offers a chance to strengthen family ties and tie a ribbon around those you love.
Every New Year offers opportunities to reach out to old friends or to make some new ones.
Every New Year brings with it hope for health, success, and enjoyment.  AND

Every New Year offers you weeks of writing last year (2011) on your checks and other important papers!

A healthy New Year to all.

Bye for Now,


Saturday, December 24, 2011


I listen to Xmas music all year long on my Iphone. Why, you ask? Because it is fun stuff filled with warmth, love, and kindnesses. White Xmas and Frosty in July in Ft. Lauderdale cools me down while I walk in the park. Oh Christmas Tree brings up lovely images in my mind's eye of the beautiful tree at the White House, Rockefeller Center in NYC, and my grand-kid's house. And so forth. It's not about the gifts!

This is really good, especially for a Jewish guy. Deck the Halls all year round and keep yourself in happier space. Enjoy tonight and tomorrow and know that you can return to it every day of the year— celebrate whenever you can.

I did once see Mommy Kissing Santa Claus, and was really happy for both of them. It was a gift they gave each other. Please keep it to yourself. Mums the word re my mum!

Remember, it is a marshmallow world—at least some of the time.

Bye For Now,


Friday, December 23, 2011


"Blessed are the young, for they shall inherit the national debt."

—Herbert Hoover

Sad really— especially given how high it is these days. Feels like we are on a merry-go-round! Let us hope that next year will be better.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, December 22, 2011


that my book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer" has been completed. Within a couple of weeks it will be available at,, and several other sources.

The second one, "How to Cope Better When You Have Cancer" is 90+% completed and should be available in the Spring.

Frankly, I hope you never need to read my books, but if you do I am confident they will be of help.

Bye for Now,


Friday, December 2, 2011


I am taking some time off from the blog to concentrate on relaxing and having some fun. We are rewarding ourselves for a job well done—the book that is.

As we know, time flies whether you are having fun or not so you better have some fun. That is my Rx for you and for me.

Will be back up on 12/24/11.

Meanwhile there are 100's of blogs for you to read from the past. Please check them out as there will be a test Christmas morning. Ho Ho Ho!

Be well and happy.

Bye for Now,


Thursday, December 1, 2011


That the last set of edits are in the works and the book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer" will be available in early January.

Je suis finis!

Working on the next book—"How to Cope Better When You Have Cancer" and just finished the first draft. But as we have learned editing can be a bitch! 

May you never need to read either one!

I am writing two books I hope no one ever needs to read. The sad truth, however, is that every year 1.5 million people in America are diagnosed with cancer. My books will help many, sad to say.

Bye For Now,


ps hope to have the second book out by March—but don't hold your breath as editing is one fun (not) time.

Wednesday, November 30, 2011


Those at the top of the mountain didn't fall there.

Marcus Washling

If this was Facebook I would press like.

Bye for Now,


Tuesday, November 29, 2011


should not leave black marks! Consideration and fair play are everyone's business.

Let's lose the pepper spray and guns and try to play fair. There are no discounts in jail! One must pay the full price which is far more costly than losing that one TV at $199.95.

Bye For Now,


Monday, November 28, 2011


I look around at people who drive cars. Some appear to be driving for twenty years or even more. Many haven't mastered driving—even the ones who are not texting, tweeting, or talking on the phone.

They go painfully slow when they need to go faster and ridiculously fast when they need to slow it down a bit. They cut me off within millimeters of crashing—just going up University Drive or on the highway.Many seem clueless as to where they are heading and some cross four lanes of traffic to make a turn. They signal randomly seemingly not knowing left from right— those that signal that is. I am sure my experiences are not unique and that you encounter these drivers everyday.

Here is my proposal: Licenses need to be up for renewal every five years and the person needs to take a written test. Fee $100. Good money for the state. Failures must take another written test within 30 days—$150. More money for the state. Failure again demands a driving test. Fee $250.

After age 75 the driver needs to renew each year with both a written and driving test.

Let's face it folks, this is about safety. I am tired of reading about people driving into canals, stores, homes, other cars or people. Safe driving is everyone's business—especially the States. Get it right, or ride a bike, or hitch hike!

As I recently told my sixteen-year-old grandson cars can be lethal weapons. He vehemently disagreed until I cited the national death toll caused by car accidents—50,000 people more or less!

Bye For Now,


Friday, November 25, 2011


to the gratitude you felt on Thursday for all the good things in your life, despite the not so good things.

Life is a balance beam. We need to hold on to the good while letting go of the bad. That helps us  balance. There were empty chairs at our table this year, but we accepted that as LIFE and sadly— death.

Life is not an easy thing to do—ever—and from time to time we all get dealt lousy cards. Robert Louis Stevenson said it best when he remarked, "Life is not so much a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes of playing a poor hand well." I encourage you to play those hands like a poker pro and still focus on the good that sits right beside the not so good. Feel grateful for the former and will the latter away ASAP.

May the "river" be kind!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, November 23, 2011


T stands for Thanks. Tomorrow is all about giving thanks!

I hope you take a moment between bites of turkey and all the trimmings to give thanks for all that is good with you, even if there are some things that are not so good.

As I have said before, gratitude is milk for the mind, and helps your attitude. It has the potential to make this years T day even more special

I hope you have many things for which to be thankful and am optimistic that you will refect upon that—if only for a few moments.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, November 22, 2011


I wrote yesterday's blog about my feelings regarding the "occupiers" more than a week ago and scheduled it for 11/21. Someone much have leaked it to the universe. No sooner did I come down on the occupiers as a smelly rag tag nuisance, the rest of the world did too. The Sun-Sentinel's main editorial on 11/18 was titled, "OWS needs to clean up act."

Protests over the protesters flared up all over the world.

Never knew how influential my blog had become! Power to the people.

Expressing one's opinion is our right and our civic duty. Doing one's duty in a public park is NOT!

Bye For Now,


Monday, November 21, 2011


When we went to the WTC in New York we passed by the park where the occupy people were camping out. I wasn't impressed for a  variety of reasons.

I don't know if that is the best way to protest. In my day, we marched—tens of thousands strong. We made our point and went home. We didn't take public space away from everyone. We didn't stink up the place with trash and excretions. We didn't create a spectacle—we created a spectacular statement that was heard. Most of the time it made a significant difference.

Time to go back to the future. Time for all those occupiers to occupy a job. Now that would be quite a protest statement, don't you know.

Bye For Now,


Friday, November 18, 2011


In these blogs, I encourage realistic optimism and positive attitudes when appropriate.

Recent research  found that there was a 35% decrease in a person's risk of dying over a five year period among people who reported being happy, content, or excited on a typical day, compared with those who were sadder or more anxious.

Life is GOOD! Je suis content. Hope you are too.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, November 17, 2011


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Bye For Now,


Wednesday, November 16, 2011


When we were in NYC for the leukemia/lymphoma walk we visited the World Trade Center site.

Inspirational as that walk was, so was this walk. They are rebuilding—3000 workers a day—12,000 visitors a day. Giant cranes in all directions. Buildings sprouting in all directions like beanstalks.

So far it all looks beautiful, sensitive, and commemorative. Two beautiful large fountains have the names of all those lost that fateful day, etched into their  black marble granite facade. The fountains flow into a deep, dark, seemingly never-ending hole. The one "last standing" tree remains forever memorializing the people who sacrificed their lives on 9/11. Seven buildings are in process amid a grass and concrete mall where soon people will walk, talk, eat lunch, drink coffee, and pray. Children will run and play there, where once only soot, ash, and pain remained.

It took a while, as do all major accomplishments, but soon that large empty space will be back and fully filled—and so will we be filled with pride. Let one or more MFers mess with us and we will take them down just as we did after 9/11. Just as was said after the holocaust—NEVER AGAIN! on our soil—NEVER.

The nice part was that there were people speaking just about every language in the world waiting on the line and wandering the space. But, there were no people of middle-eastern descent that I saw. Frankly, I understand their fears, but hope, in time, they will come. This is America. We forgive; we try hard not to judge the innocent, but we never forget the guilty. If you are among the latter stay far away; if you are among the former come back as we need all the support we can muster— and so do you!

God blesses America.

Bye for Now,


Tuesday, November 15, 2011


Last Wednesday i wrote a blog about the greatness of this country. I was distressed by a negative article I read and another that I read over the weekend in Time Magazine. The latter was about the difficulties moving up and ahead in our country at this time or ever. Why are people/writers being so negative? To sell magazines, while selling America short!

Yes, these are tough and difficult times. We have had them before and we will have them again. One senses the desperation in small and large business owners. We read with a certain sense of disbelief about significant countries that are on the verge of bankruptcy, as well as the people all over the world heading down that path.

But, we are going to come back. We always and will again figure it out. As our leaders jockey for position and political clout, things will eventually sort themselves out. Hopefully, all will learn from these times and realize that there are no quick paths to wealth or quick solutions to significant and serious problems. But, we will figure it all out and adjust.

Boom times will always collapse eventually—especially when they are based in greed and mania rather than realities.

Nonetheless keep the faith as well as your optimism for the future. This is America. We may falter and stumble but we do not fall or fail—we PREVAIL—and we will again. Have no doubt about that.

Bye for Now,


Monday, November 14, 2011


It is inspiring to give and give again. There is power in contributing to a cause—especially when that cause is cancer.

We need to unite behind this important cause until we finally kill cancer. I know there are other important causes that need rallying and support. However, none is as important as cancer, in my humble view.

Admittedly, I am biased. But while you are out there saving animals, worrying about animal skins, wanting to ban animal research, and the like, please don't forget the millions of American PEOPLE struggling with cancer.

At the end of the day the human animal is the most important of all. That is just my opinion and I understand some will differ with it. In that case, let's do both. Let's worry about our furry friends and let's worry about our not so furry friends, neighbors, and family. Perhaps the latter deserve even more priority than the former; or perhaps they both deserve equal time. You be the judge.

Let's lick cancer before it licks us and those we love! Here is the link to life:

Bye For Now,


Thursday, November 10, 2011


I went to a "light the night" fundraiser in Rye New York for Jake and Chase and all the many children and people dealing/wrestling/struggling with leukemia and lymphoma.

It was a clear, cool, wonderful night of 4000+ people coming out to support this important cause. It was one of those YES! moments we all need from time-to-time—especially when dealing with cancer.

We all walked for a mile-plus, donated some money, and raised awareness for these difficult and dread diseases. As we felt the ocean breeze coming at us we pushed on through, just like all who have to fight Cancerville—punching back against a formidable foe.

We all carried balloons that had a flashlight contraption attached that blinked a light (to light up the night).  Ours were red signifying supporters. Jake and Chase and many others were white, signifying survivors.

Then there were the gold ones signifying those whose loved ones lost their lives to these diseases. Too many for my taste and comfort. We need to increase the whites and decrease the golds and your donation can help do just that. PLEASE get in step and walk beside us every inch of the way. We need to kill cancer now and all carry white balloons. Hopefully, next year there will be many more whites and many less golds and even more whites the year after that and beyond.

Here is the site. Please go there and give what you can for the good of the cause.

God Bless.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, November 9, 2011


I was distressed to see a recent article referring to young people living in "Post-Hope America." Bull on that!

There is no time or room for such pessimism. We are struggling; of that there is no doubt. But this is America—the greatest land in the world bar none. Much of the world is struggling in one way or another. There are always growing pains, individually or collectively, from which comes growth, progress, and strength.

This is Hopeful America. Of that I have no doubt and hope you feel the same.

America, land of the free and home of the brave will overcome whatever challenges stand in its way. That is my country tis of thee and needs to be yours as well.  Thank goodness every day that you live here. It is a beautiful and wonderful place. There is no place like it in the world and I have had the good fortune to be most everywhere. Trust me on this one.

 Bye For Now,


Tuesday, November 8, 2011


reads 2 teens shot, 3 jailed in Boca drug deal, cops say. Your mind paints clear pictures of what they all look like. We stereotype well, but stereotypes are often wrong.

The long and the short is that some young adults made counterfeit money on a  Northwood University scanner and used the deceitful dollars to buy $1250 worth of weed. When the dealer realized that he came out shooting with his AK-47 putting two of the three buyers in critical condition. Two of the dealers were freshmen at FAU.

The pictures of the dealers had them looking like white football team players—clean cut crew cut types. Or perhaps they looked like CIA or Marines in training. Stupid is as stupid does and I felt sad for all. Two in critical care and three arrested and six lives ruined over what appears to be a poorly thought out plan on both sides. An honest dollar is worth $10 or maybe $100 or more compared to dirty deals and gun slinging drug dealers. Don't they teach that in college? Must be an app for that or is it that video games rule? I found it all most distressing. I'm sure you did too.

Bye For Now,


Monday, November 7, 2011


Today I noticed that I check my email many times a day, but I leave my snail mail to linger and finally catch up in a week or so.

E seems to have taken center stage. It is in the moment and it gets priority—just like tweets and Facebook and all the other e-based social media.

Have to go now so I can check on who is taking a nap. Rest assurred it ain't me! Hope it is you!

Bye For Now,


Friday, November 4, 2011


If you have read some of my blogs you know that I encourage everyone to try to be the very best that they can be. That is what I strive for and that is what I encourage; it's all about our pride bank!

So, I was taken with the World Series this year.  I could not relate or root for either team. They were not within the circle of my "fan belt."

But the sixth game was a gem. St. Louis was within one strike of losing and the Rangers within one strike of winning the trophy, not once but twice. But St. Louis battled back and won the game in the 11th inning. Mr Frees didn't freeze—he roared and soared as did the rest of the team. 

In that win I believe they paved the way for the 7th game. The Rangers lost their edge and their luster and were defeated. What a win and what a comeback.

Hold that image when you are down on your luck and within striking distance of losing everything. Give it all you have and the likelihood is that you can come out on top as a champion too.

I hope that it turns out that way for you.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, November 3, 2011


I was just about to blog about how strange it is for me to see young parents with all sorts of tattoos— sleeves, leg warmers, back peek-a-boos, shoulder straps,anklets, and whatever. In my day (which we all know is ancient and medieval times) the only tattoos were on men who had been to the service, got drunk one night and put "I LOVE Mom" or something simple like that—USMC or an anchor for the Navy.

Now the body has become a canvass on which elaborate works of art are forever sketched and inked. Generations will grow up seeing their parent's tattoos along with their mobiles and pop-up picture books. I like the sight of a delicate tattoo, but find the larger ones a bit hard to take—but who am I to judge. If the owner of the body likes it—mazel tov!

Recently, my wife told me the new Barbie has a tattoo. All I can say is I hope Ken likes it or her ass is grass! Perhaps that is precisely where the tattoo is placed. Ya just never know.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, November 2, 2011


I am sure that during the dark days of my friend's sons time in Cancerville I  mentioned it and asked for your prayers. Well, thank you because they worked.

Last week young Jake had his one year bone marrow transplant check-up. He received that miracle "medicine" from his fraternal twin brother, Chase. They along with their parents appear prominently in my forthcoming book, which should be available real soon. We are in final edits, but i think I said that before too. Editing is one tough route, but not nearly as tough as Cancerville.

The results of Jake's test were PERFECT!!! YES!

We are going up to Rye, New York this coming weekend to walk in a fundraiser for leukemia/lymphoma research that Jake's family is involved in. If you would like to make a donation for the good of the cause here is the link:

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, November 1, 2011


I have spoken before about how driving and cell phone and texting do not make for healthy and safe bedfellows. I am shocked that Florida, unlike many other cities, have not passed abuse laws in this regard. Even St. Thomas, V.I.—a  place hardly known for progress— has laws against talking on the phone and driving.

As if to prove the point I read that in the United Arab Emirates there was a 40% decrease in traffic accidents in the city of Abu Dhabi during a recent three-day worldwide Blackberry outage, which should provoke outrage, beyond just mine.

Bye For Now,


Monday, October 31, 2011

Je Ne Comprend Pas

I am not a lawyer, so I am not writing this from a legally informed point of view. Take it with a grain or pound of salt.

I am a psychologist, but I am not writing this from that point of view either.

I am writing this from the point of view of a confused and curious person.

Claw back. What exactly does that mean? If I am a jewelry store and innocently sell merchandise to a presumed "hi successful roller" who turns out to be a crook why am I responsible to give back all he or she paid me—especially when the bankruptcy attorneys sold the jewelry I sold in good faith to the crook?

Let's say a person of ill repute came to see me for help. I saw them  and billed them $10,000 for my services over many months of time. I was unaware that the money they paid me was illegally obtained. This hasn't happened, but it could have. Am I then responsible to refund what I earned  for my time and help? There is something wrong with this. I would be an innocent man!

Claw backs have many draw backs, not the least of which is penalizing the wrong people. There is a clear and clean line between innocent merchants or providers of service and crooks. I think those in charge of bankruptcy proceedings need to heed those lines.  Then again, what do I know?

 Bye For Now,


Friday, October 28, 2011


"Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but won't get you anywhere."

Undeniably correct, but not easy to correct. Better to rock calmly whenever you can!

Bye for Now,


Thursday, October 27, 2011


When I walk in the park almost every day i have noticed there are those who say HI and those who just walk on by. There are even some who when I say HI  don't say anything.

Not sure why South Florida has so many asocial folk.  In other places it is very different. There, people say, "HI, How are you?...Beautiful day...Enjoy your walk. Here a grunt is actually a better than a nothing response.

So be a HIer and a more pleasant person—actually smile sweetly as the gal did the other day. It will make you feel good and me as well if I am walking by you in the park. What does it cost, really?

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, October 26, 2011


The other day I thought that it feels like summer just began a week or so ago and here comes Halloween, followed by Thanksgiving. Christmas will be here faster than we know.

I thought perhaps that was related to my getting older, so I asked a few younger people and they agreed that time seems so accelerated these days.

Today I walked into Sams and was left momentarily speechless by the artificial Xmas trees and decorations displayed prominently at the front of the store. They appeared like an army marching in place announcing that Christmas is around the corner—and indeed I guess it is—maybe not even that far.

I have always said, "Time flies whether you're having fun or not so you better have some fun." I mean, like NOW!!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, October 25, 2011

DO A MITZVA (good deed)

Try to do something nice for someone this week—it can even be a small thing—and you will see how nice it feels.

Mitzva's come back at us in all kinds of ways—they pay many dividends that no money can buy.

Try it you will like it.

Bye For Now,


Monday, October 24, 2011


The only thing that sat its way to success was a hen.

You don't start climbing a mountain to get to the middle. Why be content with being average.
—James Hart

There is a close correlation between getting up in the morning and getting up in the world.
—Ron Dentinger

and something Mr. Jim Moran (the Toyota founder and chief executive at JM Family Enterprises) taught all he could before he passed a few years ago:

                              "We can always do more and we can always do better."

and he always did!

Bye For Now,


Friday, October 21, 2011


Truth hurts—not the searching after; the running from.

Truth! "Da Nile" isn't just a river in Egypt. It is a corosive force that can create chaos and destroy lives.

Bye for Now,


Thursday, October 20, 2011


I ask people, "How are you doing?" That despite my Mom teaching me not to talk to strangers!

More and more the response is, "Hanging in there."  Now hanging in is better than hanging it up or hanging oneself, BUT it is not a strong response. It is a sign of these complicated and confusing times. Many are struggling.

If you use that term I encourage you to change it to, "Doing just fine, thank you."  Self-fulfilling prophecy is still alive and well. The more we believe in ourselves and our futures, the more those beliefs translate into doing better and better.

Hang in, hang out, and hang strong. Believe that there are better times coming. They usually do.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, October 19, 2011


When we visited our son in St.Thomas last week  a million bees or so it seemed, appeared at noonish. They kept us in one day for more than an hour. Cowards we are!

We were told that they were swarming because of the full moon.  Never saw anything like it before except on TV. Thank goodness he had a window in his kitchen that showed us this amazing, but scary sight, just a few feet from the front door.

Knew instantly where the phrase, "Mind your own beeswax," came from. Definitely need to google bees and a full moon to learn more. I thought only us human "beeins" reacted to that monthly happening hysterically. We had no problems that I know of with the moon, but many with the bees.

This adds a whole new meaning to the phrase, "What's buzzing cousin?" and leads one to think we should all travel with the antidote to a bee sting or two.

Buzz (I mean Bye) for Now,


Tuesday, October 18, 2011


it truly is a wonderful world. Your goal for today and everyday really, is to identify as many things as you can—small as they may be—that prove that point.

There is a prize if you can find more than five. That prize is your enjoying a happier day.

Bye for Now,


Monday, October 17, 2011


Who does not thank for little will not thank for much.

I agree. Gratitude helps your Attitude, I always say!

Bye For Now,


Saturday, October 15, 2011


Apropos of yesterday's blog:

You will only be remembered for two things: the problems you solve or the one's you create.

Mike Murdock

I don't think this is  precisely true as I would hope to be remembered for more than problems—solved or otherwise. But better to be a solver than a causer!

Bye for Now,


Friday, October 14, 2011


This blog continues yesterday's.

I had a couple or three incidents this summer that were very frustrating. The common denominator was that people I had paid significant money to had let me down. I don't suffer inequity gladly or well. I went to war—a quiet war of sensible words and rational arguments.

In all cases I lost round one and even two. You might just be hearing the music from Rocky in the back of your mind. I "shlepped" up and down those "steps" and followed the sign in my office that reads, "Never Never Never Give Up!"

I won my battles in the third round all the while being realistically optimistic that I would.

Justice ultimately prevails—not immediately but often when we persevere in a logical and rational way. Solving problems in today's world is not always simple or clear cut. But slow and steady usually wins the race in the long run.

If it is realistic approach all of your struggles and life battles optimistically. It allows you to be less stressed and more powerful. The more powerful you feel the more likely you will be to prevail.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, October 13, 2011


I want you to know that I do practice what I preach.  I use my philosophy of "realistic optimism" all the time. That means be optimistic when it is realistic to be so.

Don't be optimistic when you have drunk too much at a party and think you can drive home safely and without incident. Call a cab or phone a friend. John F Kennedy Jr. was not being realistic when he took his plane up that sad and fateful night. False and unrealistic optimism is inappropriate and can be dangerous.

But  optimism and hopefulness based in reality can be very helpful, uplifting and even rewarding. More on this tomorrow.

Bye For Now,


PS I am optimistic you will read tomorrow's post.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011


Tackling life's challenges is like eating an orange. They're much easier to handle one section at a time.

David Zahka

Tuesday, October 11, 2011


Does anyone really care about Columbus Day other than as a retail promotional event. I mean I never ever heard anyone say, "I can't wait for Columbus Day to come." And I seriously doubt whether people were walking around yesterday excited or thinking about Chris with fond admiration.

Actually the way I remember the story Leif Ericson got here first. Not only that but Spain's crown got ticked off at him  and at one point had him arrested. He and his heirs fought with the Spanish government to get his rightful due. So when you put all that together why do we still celebrate, venerate, and honor him?

I vote that we repeal Columbus Day and replace it with some more important person like Walt Disney, Steve Jobs or Mickey Mantle. At least we know who they are and what they contributed to the world.

Goodbye Columbus!

Bye For Now,


Friday, October 7, 2011


I am really trying hard to relate and to understand this whole new world of the book in your face.

It helps to make friends and to share info and pics. I get that.  But what about all the people on my page who i don't know?  Who are you and what are you doing on my page?And what about all the info on my page that I don't really care that much about? And what am I supposed to be writing about?

Someone should write a book called, "Facebook for Real Dummies," or Fodors Guide to Facebook—2011. I would buy and read them and then know how to behave in this strange new land.

Here is my commitment: I will figure this out and I will post meaningful and significant news and I will tell you every time I take a nap simply because I don't do naps! And I don't really care if/when you do, so please spare me/us that news.

This is all very draining.  I need to rest—but no nap! Of that I am certain. Well, maybe I am taking a nap right now. You will never know for sure.  HA!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, October 6, 2011


It is nice to see the big and brawny football players wearing pink to acknowledge and respect October being Beast Cancer Awareness Month.

All of the people who have donated billons of dollars over many years have made a big difference. Every little bit helps so give something this month to Susan G. Komen and fill your pride bank while giving a little from your piggy bank.

Bye for Now,


Wednesday, October 5, 2011


I am fascinated at the New World Order and its special lexicon:

LOL--Do u think all who use that really did?

The word okay got shortened to ok somewhere along the line. Now k says it all. We people seem to have a need to shorten everything. Someday the dictionary will be called dict or dic and then D or d and some in the future will say what is a dictionary?

BTW(by the way) and BYM(between you and me and OMG and so many others will replace human language and we will spend much of our time emailing,tweeting, texting and facebooking letters instead of words.What will books and magazines or ezines look like? Will anyone care about punctuation? At that time what will English 101 teach?  Abbreviations?

Have a HD(happy day) and BW(be well).

B F N,


Tuesday, October 4, 2011


For the rest of the week try your best to not criticize anything or anyone.  Strive to be non-judgmental. Focus on the positives and try to ignore or look away from that which is annoying, irritating or disappointing.

I am willing to bet that if you feel grateful for what works and ignore what doesn't you will have a better, happier, and more comfortable week. I guarantee it.

Remember--NO BITCHING WHATSOEVER! Ready, get set, GO.

Bye for Now,


Monday, October 3, 2011


In my forthcoming book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer,"  which  I just redited for the 100th+ time the past few days, I say, "There are many paths to heaven only one of which is cancer."

As if to validate that statement there was sad and sorry news this week of another big C--Cantelope! Can u believe that eating a healthy fruit can kill you--weeks after you have injested it? OMG was my reaction. Who would ever think that your life could be on the line because you ate something healthy? Lettuce too has been implicated. It was meat a few years ago. Yougart and tofu can't be far behind.

I don't write this to scare you, but just to make you aware of how precious each day of our life is and how we need to be grateful for having dodged yet another bullet. And how we need to send our sympathies to those who were eating healthy and became terminally ill--15 by last count. What a sad and sorry state of affairs.

It all goes to prove my belief that "You just never know what's coming around the corner," which ties into my other belief which is "Time flies whether you are having fun or not so please have some fun!" And we won't be eating Cantelope in my house for a while, don't you know.Lettuce is still here but on the worry/wash throughly list.

Many years ago I said, "It is not paranoid to be paranoid these days!" I think I was right, but for the fact paranoia is not prevention.

Bye For Now,


Friday, September 30, 2011


The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everyone else up.
Mark Twain


Bye For Now,


Thursday, September 29, 2011


Contrary to the cliche, genuinely nice people most often finish first or very near it.
Malcolm Forbes

And while we are at it NOT only the good die young!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, September 28, 2011


I don't go to movies very often, but did see Moneyball last night. It was worth the price of admission. Set in the field of dreams it is as much about playing the game of life as it is about playing baseball. It is about winning and losing and how we deal with our failures and how we set our sights on succeeding. It is about spirit vs. science and humanness vs. technology;it is about playing the game and about gaming the play! It is also about not staying stuck in the safe ruts of life, but also taking risks and chances and stretching— even in unconventional ways.

I think what it was really about is the need to balance out the yin and yang of life to a reasonable extent and make decisions that are not solely based on greed and the need to make a run or two on the scoreboard of our lives, regardless of the consequences.It is about pride bank deposits vs. piggy bank ones—Moneyball is not really about money at all—it is, at the end of the game, about how we live our lives!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, September 27, 2011


I feel like a woman in her ninth month with things going oh so slow.

My book is in reformatting mode and it seems as if it is taking sooo long. My mental belly bulges despite having lost 12+ pounds of my body. I want to give birth to my "baby" and must settle for the "process." Still two steps to go. I want to be in the breeding trap like a guppy, but feel I am just in a trap in which I can't get out.

I keep telling myself to have patience and that it will be born soon. Will keep you posted as it is definitely a labor of love. At this very moment I feel the pain.

Bye For Now,


Monday, September 26, 2011


Ducks that is. When I was walking in the park the other day I passed 20-30 ducks all scurrying from near the small lake toward a car that had just pulled into a parking spot facing the lake. I wondered why the "herd" was stampeding. Then I got it. I realized that "Jimmy or Johnny is here" had spread through the neighborhood. As the word got out more ducks appeared from all corners of the park.

Obviously he is a regular "feeder" and Pavlovian conditioning being what it is the ducks know his car. Sure enough as he got out he carried a plastic container filled with bread or crumbs or some combination. He was the pied piper and they were his friends. It was an interesting and enlightening moment all at once. Nice to know that ducks do not bite the hand that feeds them—they waddle as fast as they can toward those hands and that car.

Be nice if we could learn that simple lesson too.

Bye For Now,


Friday, September 23, 2011


Real difficulties can be overcome;it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.

Theodore Vail

The only slight change I would make is that I don't agree they are unconquerable—but they do take time and effort to shed and often require the assist of a mental health professional.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, September 22, 2011


I was finally forced to join facebook in order to have a cancerville facebook page.

Now I have "friends" of people all over who I don't know. I haven't a clue who they are and I never accepted their friendship, but somehow we are now buddies for life. I don't even recognize their pictures, let alone those of their grand kids, etc. Oh what a cute puppy doing a trick. Who cares? Now I am learning about the details of these stranger's lives. Soon I will feel like part of their family. But what if I don't want to be involved? My mother taught me never to talk to strangers.

There are times in our techno world where one can feel more alone and estranged than when friends were people you called on the phone, met for lunch or invited over for some wine and cheese. The only words I will probably ever post on my personal facebook page are, "I don't really care if you are taking a nap." Wonder how many friends I will have then?

I think I need a nap—but please don't spread that around. Let's just keep it between you and me and not tell the 631 friends you have on facebook.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, September 21, 2011


Ego trip: a journey to nowhere.

Robert Half

Ain't that the truth? Sometimes the most profound words can be the simplest and the shortest.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, September 20, 2011


Yesterday I talked about a company that is building a phone app where urban dwellers can rent out their loo to those in need for a small fee called CLOO'.

Let's take it one step further. How about an app for people needing a spare bedroom to have sex. This would work for couples who both live at home as well as those having an affair. The rates would be half of what a motel charges. We could call the app SCROO'.

Or how about an app for renting out your kitchen (KROO') to someone who loves to cook but only has a microwave or your dining room or patio (PAROO') for a party hosted by someone who lives in a studio apartment.

This could be the start of something big! Ya just never know when it comes to these silly apps. Just look at Angry Birds billion dollar plus take.

By the way the apostrophe at the end is very important, but I don't know why. That alone could kill this whole idea!

Bye For Now,


Monday, September 19, 2011


In the past I have spoken about the Yin and the Yang of technology and encouraged a patient mindset appreciating all the good. Some of the apps are genius, but CLOO' seems downright silly.

CLOO' is short for community plus loo. It aims to have urban dwellers rent their private bathrooms to strangers desperately seeking a toilet. I kid you not. It aims to launch next year.

Aim may actually be a key word in this venture.

Bye For Now,


Friday, September 16, 2011


The title is the name of a book published a few years ago by a young man born without complete limbs who went on to be a successful high school and college wrestler as well as a football player. I always felt that if he could excel in those ways so could we.

Today at the gym I observed many people entering and exiting with walkers, in wheel chairs, with canes and crutches, and even a blind person.

If they can all commit to get fit so can we. Let's all make a decision to increase our exercise regimen in the months ahead. Do it under doctor's supervision and always within your physical limits. Going into the gym or beginning a walk, run, swim, etc. may not feel all that good, but exiting always feels great.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, September 15, 2011


Wherever I go and whomever I talk to by phone in the service area I am always wished to have a good or great day. Now, being the person I am, I often wonder if they are sincere or just saying that because that was part of customer relations training 101. I can't imagine that veritable strangers actually and sincerely care about the kind of day I have. Can you? I don't take bs kindly!

Therefore, let's get even with them and have a good/great day just for spite. That will teach them to be insincere! Our message is simple: even though you don't really care about us—we do! So we are having a swell day thank you very much. Got them last!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, September 14, 2011


The other day I spoke about giving yourself a gift for all you do for others. Then I stumbled upon this interesting quote:

          Those who are not looking for happiness are the most likely to find it, because those who are  
          searching forget that the surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.

          Martin Luther King, Jr.

Life, in my view, is all about balance. For every yin there is always a yang. One of the most difficult challenges in all of life is finding and sustaining that balance. I have spent just about my entire life striving and at times struggling to maintain balance. I keep moving toward it and hope you do too.

The closer we get to it, the healthier and more fulfilled we become. Yet, it is not so easy to attain. But it is possible. Keep setting goals and keep getting closer to them. As the sign in my office says, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER Give Up!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, September 13, 2011


Paraphrasing Bernie Siegel, M.D. in his groundbreaking book, "Love, Medicine and Miracles," he said something like, It is not about dying—we are all going to die. It is about living and meeting the challenges of life head-on. That's what it is all about.

That is truly what life is all about. In that regard no one rose the the challenges like Susan. She was the grand master and poster person for playing a poor hand well. She did it over and over again with a
strength and spirit that reflected her being a Brooklyn, New York gal who also had a warm and generous heart.

Nonetheless Dr. Siegel I am very sad she passed prematurely. She has no doubt taken her rightful place in Heaven, but we could have benefited from her presence here for quite a bit longer. We just don't get to pick, sad to say. And sometimes strength, determination, perseverance and even moxie, while noble, are not sufficient.

Susan believed we keep coming back to finish up what we didn't deal with this time and the previous times around. She felt her suffering in this life would allow her next one to be easier. I really hope she is correct.

Bye For Now,


Monday, September 12, 2011


Last week I spoke about giving yourself simple gifts because you deserve them.

Give yourself the gift of gratitude every day. No matter your hardships and struggles, surely there are things for which you are grateful. Remind yourself about them. Make a list of them in your mind's spreadsheet and appreciate that for which you feel grateful.

You will find that it influences your attitude in positive ways, lifts your spirits just a little and lights a spark that fuels your energy.

Bye For Now,


Friday, September 9, 2011


It is reputed that Napoleon—a lover of French wine and Champagne—said, "If I win I deserve it and if I lose I need it."

Definitely a man after my own heart.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, September 8, 2011


I have always been aware of the fragile perch on which we all sit. I was taught about it early on and then had it validated when my father died at age 49 and my father-in-law at 51 and my cousins at 33,39, 40 and on and on and on.

And on! Having just dealt with a fifth loss of a close person since January I am beginning to overdose on death. I would appreciate a break for a while so I can reestablish my denial mechanisms, think happier thoughts and stop having to say goodbye—at least for a while.

But the message for us all is critically important. We certainly all could  take better care of ourselves and also try to find some peaceful, pleasant, positive time  and give it to ourselves as a gift. Because a) we deserve it, b) we tend to be stingy with ourselves even in simple "gifts", c) we just never know what's coming around the corner and d)all of the above.

Do something special just for you today. Call it payback for all you do for others. You have earned it!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, September 7, 2011


I am a great believer in the phrase, "When it ain't broke don't fix it." Obviously my blogger site doesn't agree so they took a perfectly fine site and made changes. Now I am lost.

So this is a test. Let's see if I can figure out how to get this up.

I wish you a peaceful and fulfilling day as you wrestle with your e issues. Sometimes, e stands for ENOUGH ALREADY!

Bye For Now,


Monday, September 5, 2011

changed the format to the point

I can't put up a post.

Sometimes progress is regress.

Bye For Now,


Friday, September 2, 2011


                                                                 Sorry Guys

                                                  Why do men act like idiots?
                                                    Who says they're acting?

If you have a problem with this please talk to I am merely a scribe! He is merely being honest!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, September 1, 2011


Even a steely gray rainy day at the beach is better than a sunny one inland. It is still a calming and tranquil place where the yin of the water kisses the yang of the sand while making a soothing smooching sound.

Those of us who live in South Florida are truly fortunate to have the beach nearby. But like so many things we take for granted many haven't visited the beach in years. I encourage you to carve out some time for you and go over for a swim, walk, or even a quiet moment sitting on a bench and contemplating your navel or someone elses.

I guarantee you will come away relaxed recharged, and refreshed

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, August 31, 2011


The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

The real secret is how to do that as its not always easy to do, wise advice as it may be. Let's keep trying.Buddha knows his stuff!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, August 30, 2011


Here is another gem from the Orange Peel Gazette:


A woman was sipping on a glass of wine, while sitting on the patio with her husband, and she said, "I love you so much, I don't know how I could ever live without you."

Her husband asked, "Is that you, or the wine talking?"

She replied, "It's me........talking to the wine."

A woman after my own heart!

Bye For Now,


Monday, August 29, 2011


Laughter releases tension, improves body and mind, and even can heal our emotional wounds, reducing both our physical and emotional pain. The Orange Peel Gazette is a neat giveaway paper that is filled with ads and laughs. Pick it up and you will find many of their jokes amusing.

Here's one to which I can relate:
"The older you get the tougher it is to lose weight, because by then your body and your fat are really good friends."

Perhaps the answer is to peel an orange instead of the wrapper from a candy bar.

Bye For Now,


P.S. The jokes are all clean! Hope that didn't spoil it for you.

Friday, August 26, 2011

Having just seen Midnight in Paris this sums it up for me:

Nothing is more responsible for the good old days than a bad memory.
Fred Allen

I remember him and I recall the fifties and think he and they were both very nice. Weren't they? I can't quite remember!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, August 25, 2011


I am reminded of the old joke that goes like this. The man comes into the psychologist's office and excitedly says, " My wife and I only have sex once a year." The psychologist says, "I am sorry to hear that. Why do you seem so happy and excited?" The man exclaims, "Doc, tonight's the night--tonight's the night!

So tonight's the night that I shipped off my book onto it's next step/stop. I am finished and that is a good thing. I feel a weight lifted off of my shoulders. After 14 months of focus and the last 3 in overdrive I/we have completed a labor of love. The book should be in print in 6 weeks or so and will hopefully help many people. Meanwhile check out and let me know what you think.

On to the next book with a few days off for good behavior. I am even going to the movies today. Now, that is really scary!

Bye For now,


Wednesday, August 24, 2011

SO I SHOT MYSELF (see yesterdays blog)

Made an amazing recovery after yesterday's missed deadline.

Shot 9 of 11 from the foul line in the park Tuesday after another marathon editing day—made the first 7 in a row at 6:11 p.m.EST.

I trust you are duly impressed. Practice makes less than perfect, but more than mediocre. I will keep at it. I hope you will too in any way you like.

Managed to make the deadline for tomorrow (actually today now) as well. All things considered it was a good day. i hope the same is true for you on Wednesday. It will be a good day for me. I will tell you why on Thursday.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, August 23, 2011


I forgot all about doing a blog for this morning. I am so sorry. I picture my loyal fan base sitting there at 8:01a.m.this morning filled with disappointment and concern. "What happened to Bill's Blog?" all three of them wondered. "Is he okay?" they worried.

Truth is that I am obsessed with a far more ambitious project. The "book" has consumed me day and night for the past many months.It has become a passionate obsession—a true labor of love. It has been that for my wife "editor" as well.

It is not a bad thing to have a passion for something and I encourage you to find yours in whatever area it might be. I know some have that for golf or other sports as well as many other interests and hobbies. I encourage you to seek something in which you can feel passionate and derive meaning, satisfaction along with pride bank deposits.

And when you do you won't be waiting for my blog at 8:01 a.m. and won't really care if it posts or not!

Seriously, thanks to my loyal fan base wherever you may be. I hope you never need to read, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer" but if you read it from curiosity I believe you will be very impressed.

Bye For Now,


Monday, August 22, 2011


I tried to guide you through Thursday and Friday last week. I hope it helped you. If not, try to use the same philosophy this coming week.

It is all about attitude and gratitude and trying your best to see the positive rather than the opposite.

Start today with a happy, optimistic, and positive mind set. Enjoy your day, despite the stresses and presses. Stretch to see and appreciate the good.

Like so many say, whether they mean it or not—Have a good day!

Bye For Now,


Friday, August 19, 2011


Find some things for which you are grateful other than that it is Friday and acknowledge them in your mind. Finish the following sentence any way you like. Despite the hardships, difficulties and stressors of my life, I am GRATEFUL for_______________.

Do that every few days for a week or two and you will find your mood and attitude have improved.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, August 18, 2011


So what shall we do about Thursday? It is not the beginning of the week or the end. It is not the weekend or even mid-week. It is sort of an odd day.

Nonetheless, enjoy it! Think tremendous Thursday. Think it is one day before TGIF! And it is two days before the WEEKEND! And it is three days before back to work Monday— OMG.

Enjoy the day and assume it will bring something pleasant and positive. If not, there is always—TGIF—Friday!

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, August 17, 2011


Many people are dealt a difficult hand. Some, more than once. Part of coping with and adapting to life is learning to play a difficult hand well.

I hope you have learned to do that. If not, seek out emotional support to help get you through.

If the hands you are dealt have been pretty good, feel grateful for that. It is a blessing.

Life is never easy; but sometimes it can be more difficult than anyone really deserves.

Try your best to rise to the challenges and keep working at it everyday.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, August 16, 2011


We never talked in our family. We communicated by putting Ann Landers articles on the fridge.
Judy Gold

No articles posted on my fridge growing up. Who is Ann? It was a "sounds of silence" time.Hopefully, today open communication rule your personal and family life. If not please post my blogs on your fridge! Ann will be pleased as will Judy.

Bye for Now,


Monday, August 15, 2011


for your week to start well and continue that way every single day!
Think positive, feel positive, experience positive.I hope it is all good.

Bye For Now,


Friday, August 12, 2011


In an unanticipated way I received a couple of more pride bank deposits today.NICE!

What this shows is that kindness and being there in a helpful way for others is its own reward. I firmly believe that all people that stretch and reach out in a kind and gentle way that shows their caring, commitment to doing good deeds and going above and beyond, receive multiple rewards.

For example, take a simple job like being a server in a restaurant. You can be like the one we had tonight who dashed away as soon as the glass or plate heavily hit the table.... Oh, Miss, MISS, Hello!..... Or you can be warmer and wait a split second and say something like, "How else can I be of help?" Guaranteed you will get a larger tip; equally important you will represent your owners well and leave a favorable impression about the establishment. And you will have done your job excellently and feel the pride bank deposit of that. In addition,people might ask for you the next time they dine adding even more to your pride bank and your piggy bank.

So in whatever you do try to do it better and strive to reach out in ways that leave a lasting impression on satisfied customers, clients and even more importantly family and friends.The harder you try, the easier it gets and the more dividends you reap. It is a simple formula and I encourage you to follow it.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, August 11, 2011


I want to thank Linda for her kind words posted not so anonymously on yesterdays blog.I was touched that she would feel so strongly about my help and assistance after all of these years. Thank you for a powerful pride bank deposit.I am pleased that I was able to be there for you at an important time and that you are doing well.I hope my words continue to go with you.

I strive to do that for all of the people who have crossed my path over all these forty odd—some very odd—years.Early on, I realized that in helping people I needed to be "all in!" Unhappy, anxious, and confused people need a strong hand and voice of support to help them dig themselves out of the holes they have dug and back onto level ground. It is not just about throwing them a shovel; it is about two shovels digging together to get them out of that hole ASAP.

Some people have asked how I could have done this all these years and maintained myself.So many in my profession burn out in half the time or less. Fortunately, I never did and still enjoy helping others. I'm not really sure how I have done it, but really happy that I have done it. There is no greater gift than in reaching out and helping a person in need.

What I have done and still do applies to you in whatever you do. Try your best to do your best.The bottom line is not always about the bottom line. At the end of the day pride bank deposits trump piggy bank deposits everyday of the week. Giving is not only its own reward, but always comes back to pay emotional dividends in one way or another, such as this lovely and unexpected email. I thank you for that, Linda, most sincerely, humbly, and gratefully.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, August 10, 2011


Fertilizer does no good in a heap, but a little spread around works miracles all over.
Percy Ross

We humans need emotional fertilizer. Spread it upon yourself and your relationships and it will help your emotional garden grow dividends of added value. That's no B.S.!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, August 9, 2011


Life is about chasing after the things you truly believe are worth it,even if they don't happen I'd rather have nothing but know I didn't settle for something I didn't want.
Salma Hayek

There are so many interpretations to the above. It applies to us as individuals, as workers, and as partners and family members. It applies spiritually, politically and economically as well. It is a mantra, in my opinion, to which we all need to strive toward.I hope you do just that.

Bye For Now,


Monday, August 8, 2011


I thought the following would give you a chuckle. It is not so far off from my blog called A Medical Fantasy on 6/27:

One day, in line at the company cafeteria, Joe says to Mike behind him, "My elbow hurts like hell. I guess I'd better see a doctor."

"Listen, you don't have to spend that kind of money," Mike replies

"There's a diagnostic computer down at Costco. Just give it a urine sample and the computer will tell you what's wrong and what to do about it.

It takes ten seconds and costs ten dollars - A lot cheaper than a doctor."

So, Joe deposits a urine sample in a small jar and takes it to Costco.

He deposits ten dollars and the computer lights up and asks for the urine sample... He pours the sample into the slot and waits.

Ten seconds later, the computer ejects a printout:

"You have tennis elbow. Soak your arm in warm water and avoid heavy activity.. It will improve in two weeks. Thank you for shopping @ Costco.."

That evening, while thinking how amazing this new technology was, Joe began wondering if the computer could be fooled.

He mixed some tap water, a stool sample from his dog, urine samples from his wife and daughter, and a sperm sample from himself for good measure.

Joe hurries back to Costco, eager to check the results.. He deposits ten dollars, pours in his concoction, and awaits the results .

The computer prints the following:

1. Your tap water is too hard. Get a water softener. (Aisle 9)
2. Your dog has ringworm.. Bathe him with anti-fungal shampoo. (Aisle 7)
3. Your daughter has a cocaine habit. Get her into rehab.
4. Your wife is pregnant. Twins. They aren't yours.. Get a lawyer.
5. If you don't stop playing with yourself, your elbow will never get better!
Thank you for shopping @ Costco!

Hope you found that funny.

Bye For Now,


Friday, August 5, 2011


There is nothing quite so energizing, quite so enhancing, quite so enticing, and enriching as laughter filling one's home.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, August 4, 2011


When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.
John Ruskin

Two people getting together to write a book is like three people getting together to have a baby. One of them is superfluous.
George Bernard Shaw

Why authors write I do not know. As well ask why a hen lays an egg or a cow stands patiently while a farmer milks her.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011


Start the day with a positive expectation of something happening that will be helpful.Conclude the day by appreciating all that did happen, especially if it was helpful and most especially, by appreciating yourself. Fall off to sleep expecting an even brighter, more helpful day, tomorrow.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, August 2, 2011


Sometimes we just need to push aside peculiar party political posturing and remain patriotic. We are and always will be the greatest free land in the world. We aren't going out of business anytime soon. We shall overcome as we always have. I trust America, I believe in America, and that is why I live in America.I feel grateful that I was born in America. Despite the conflicts and controversies, we will figure it out and move on to greater glories.

I do have one suggestion. Make the term of President 6 years. It takes that long to make positive things happen. Then, make the term nonrenewable and nonrefillable by the same person. The President gets a one time shot and then retires gracefully.

That way, there is no focus on reelection and another 4 years. That way, the President can be decisive without looking forward to who he may be alienating in the process of leadership. That way, the President has a clear focus and mission statement. That way, we avoid politics as usual, stalemates and all the silliness that comes with it.

Bye For now

Monday, August 1, 2011


My wife and I spend just about every day polishing the book. By now you would think the print would have been rubbed off the pages. Yet, each run through finds more ways to prune and weed my garden of words. Soon, flowers will grow tall amid the words and they will be ready for prime time. It is better to take one's time and get it right, than write hurriedly and publish a mess.

This is really a metaphor for our lives. No matter what we strive to do, it takes time and energy to perfect. We need to hone our skills and sharpen our talents. Nothing that is worth happening comes easy. It does not need to be perfect, but it needs to be right.

I encourage you to commit and be prepared to recommit to your goals. Whether they are to write a book, read one, lose 10 pounds, learn a new skill or language doesn't matter. What matters is that you keep at it until you reach your goal and are satisfied with the outcome.

What also matters to me is that blogs don't need to be edited. For that reason alone I am back! Hurray.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, June 28, 2011


I hope my two previous blogs made you chuckle.

As I have always said, "Time flies whether you are having fun or not, so you better have some fun." I hope to have some in July, but mostly I will finish the book I have been writing (How to Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer) and start the next one (How to Cope Better When You Have Cancer). My very sincere hope is that you never need to read either Sad to say,too many will, but at least it will help them.

I will start the blog up again in August. There are many previous ones for you to read or reread. There will be a test in the Fall! But why take it? It has already begun. Live an optimistic, purposeful and grateful life each day and you will have passed with flying colors.

Have a safe July 4th. May all your fireworks be in the sky.

Bye For Now and July,


Monday, June 27, 2011


My friend and physician for more than 20 years and I had a very brief conversation the other day as he entered the examining room carrying his laptop. Now, all doctors must do their charting that way.

My comment to him was that someday the computer will talk directly to me and give me feedback. He strongly disagreed and said the computer will never replace the human element in medicine. I agree, BUT.........

Someday,perhaps we will walk into a doctors office and be greeted by a Robot. In some cases, you may feel it is that way now! But, fortunately my doctors people are very pleasant and welcoming. The Robot will recognize me and say, "Hello, Dr. Penzer. Please step onto that mental stand and put your arms thru the sleeves and your hands into the gloves, palms up. A green light will come on to show you are properly positioned."

That contraption weighs me, checks my blood pressure and pulse and if need be takes an EKG. It also painlessly pricks my finger and draws blood which it analyzes immediately.It scans my body for rashes and any troublesome warts or moles. It does an Xray type urine analysis, which thankfully no longer demands aim.

By the time I am led into an examining room within 2 minutes, all data has been analyzed and fed to another Robot who welcomes me warmly, "Good to you you again, Doctor,How are you feeling these days?"( Note, I am feeling fine and my exam the other day was fine, but I have made up the following symptoms for illustrative purposes). "Well," I say, I've been a bit dizzy, very fatigued and people say I look pale. Otherwise I feel fine."

The Robot responds, "I can help you with that. Your heart is fine, your blood results suggest you to be a little anemic and I think your dizziness is a minor, intermittent vertigo.If it bothers you try a pill for seasickness. Your cholesterol is higher than last time so I want you to up your medication and lose a few pounds. I am also writing a script for iron pills. I have conveyed all of this to your Doctor who will be in within 3 minutes. Have a good day and come back in 3 months.

My friend and doctor walks in and greets me warmly. He reviews the Robot's assessment with me, concurs and asks, " Anything else I can help you with today? "Not a thing, man, not a thing." I say as I exit. The Robotic secretary/receptionist tells me it has already charged my copay and emailed a copy of my blood results and my next appointment date.

The only thing I haven't figured out yet is how they will get the proctology and vaginal exams done, as the Robot's hands are steely cold and a bit rough around the edges. It may just be, as my friend pointed out, that the human element will still be needed after all.Of that, I really have no doubt.

It is, however, fun to ponder where technology is heading in the next 25 years. Now, if they can program a machine to say, "UMM", Ahha," "OH," "I see," "Tell me more" and a few other key expressions, it can do my job, too. I'll come in at the end to say, "Sorry our time is up for today" and collect the fee." I guess we will never really replace that human element. Then again, tell that to all the unemployed toll booth collectors.

Bye For Now,


Friday, June 24, 2011


Long before airlines charged for every detail, I predicted that they would soon charge to use the rest room on a plane. People laughed at me. "Don't be ridiculous," they said. Then, that cheapo airline in England, Ryan Air, said that was in their business plan, but it pooped out for unknown reasons.

Today, Spirit announced a $5 fee for those who need their boarding passes printed at the airport. Very soon they will charge a toll for access to the airport, a security check fee, money for the walk to the boarding gate as well as a seat there, check in, using the jet way and YES, the bathroom. There will also be a charge for bringing on your own food or drink.

There will also be a fee for the life preserver, whether you use it or not or even know where it is. Actually, double if you use it. They will also auction off the one soiled pillow and blanket available. Perhaps there will be a general use fee for the bathroom, double if you actually use it and triple if you do doo doo.You can always white lie and punch in "peepee" on the bathroom controller computer. Or is that a yellow lie?

It is just getting so confusing to fly. Better not to go (if you get what I mean)! Don't even ask about the mile high club. You can't afford it.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, June 23, 2011

7 of 10

Yesterday I hit that number from the free throw line in 90+ degree heat. I tried to compute whether that was better, worse or equal to my previous high of 8 out of 11, but math was never my strong suit. BUT who cares! The Heat should have done so well.

I believe in acknowledging less than perfect accomplishments. Pride banks are built on that awareness. I hope you get that, too.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, June 22, 2011


If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live.

Lin Yutang

Tuesday, June 21, 2011


I have wondered if just as we tend to expect too much from ourselves, we can expect too much from the athletes for whom we root.

The Heat took a pounding in the press and by fans after their defeat by the Mavericks who outplayed them every step of the way. But they came in second. Not exactly "chopped liver." They won all of the other playoff series mightily, week after week. Shouldn't they be given credit for that?

More to the point shouldn't we give ourselves credit for our successes, despite occasional misses from the "free throw' line of life? As I said in a prior blog I was proud when got 8 of 11. Try your best to get the accounting correct. Give yourself credit for everything you do that is worthy and accept (unless it is a crime) that which is not so great. If the superstars can miss at times, so can we. Second isn't all that bad after all.

Bye For Now,


Monday, June 20, 2011


After a day's walk everything has twice its usual value.

G M Trevelyan

Friday, June 17, 2011


Nope. Hope you had a pleasant and productive week.

I also hope you can give yourself a break and some recharge time over the weekend. If not you, who? If not now, when?

Make taking care of you a priority while you still do all you do for others.

As for "weiner world" he finally resigned after the porn star came out of the debris and opened up. No worries. He will soon become a spokesperson for Oscar Myer and then CNN. Life goes on. C'est la vie!

Bye For Now,


Thursday, June 16, 2011


We should be taught not to wait for inspiration to start a thing. Action always generates inspiration. Inspiration seldom generates action.

Frank Tibolt

Wednesday, June 15, 2011


Having watched the agony and ecstasy of the Heat throughout the playoffs (which my robot strongly disapproved of)I have a suggestion. I believe there should be a foul for any player who shows their mouth guard. A double one for those that show one that drips saliva.Ugh!

It is bad enough to see their gaffs, but even worse to see their drool. I also think that a technical should be issued for those who chew on them like a pacifier. Come on big guys, act your age!

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, June 14, 2011


I like this one for its honesty and simplicity:

I've had more trouble with D.L. Moody that with any other man I ever met.

D.L. Moody

I wonder if that is his real name?

Bye for Now,


Monday, June 13, 2011


I received some flack about my Friday "weiny world" post. I also received some pretty racy pictures, mostly from republicans.Obviously, they wanted equal time. Seriously, I was not speaking to the morality of it all. Since civilization began, indiscretions have been part of the non-digital picture. It is Adam and Eve, id vs. superego, all the time and forever after.

I was railing about what smart people don't know about smart devices. Simply stated, they remember what many not so smart people would rather forget.

So once again, let me repeat that there are no secrets anymore. Everything pubic is public. The old saying was, "What's on his/her lung is on his/her tongue." Now it is, "What is on a server never disappears and may not serve you well."

So here are the new "rules" for 2011 and beyond:

No emails, texts or twits that u don't want everyone (including your Mom) to read.

No naked or partially clad pictures of yourself or others put out there.

No solicitation unless it is for a political or charitable contribution. In this case, charity does NOT begin at home, Governator.

No words exchanged that could embarrass you or cause you shame.

Private communications in private settings ONLY.

This is not rocket science. This is an effort to keep your rocket from crashing and burning, not to mention your "weiner."

Bye For Now,


Friday, June 10, 2011


I want you to send this to every VIP you know. Please forward this blog to Politicians, Hollywood or Bollywood movie stars, Athletes, Rock Stars, CEOs, University Presidents and the like. Please do not send to those who already have failed the litmus test of understanding life, technology and propriety in the 21st century. Do not send this to a once famous golfer who can't seem to make his putts, ever since he became one.

Now hear this all remaining unblemished VIPs( not many of you left sad to say!): In our techno world there is little privacy and even less secrecy. Everything, and I mean everything is subject to scrutiny. Taking a pic of your privates and sending them off is just not good for business, other than monkey business.It doesn't even seem to work well there.Just ask what's his name who exposes state secrets around the world, while exposing himself. Life is just not fair in so many ways.

Therefore, sending naked pictures to innocent others, seducing twits(or is it twats?) via twitter ( or is it twatter?), soliciting sex from high profile and high charging prostitutes, having sex and babies with fat and ugly employees or raping chamber maids much too close to airplane takeoff times,is dangerous to your health, happiness and harmonious relationships with your spouse, employee, political party or d) all of the above. Unless your wife is French, in which case she says, "Right on bro! Isn't mon cher chaud?" In my next life I may just marry a French woman!

Expose your privates in any way and many will do their best to whack them off.It is a slam dunk that provides fodder for the late night comedians. They wait for your improprieties to shove them up your you know what.

Furthermore,try to learn from those hormonally charged people who have "come" before you in the literal and figurative sense. Please help me understand what you don't understand about leaving a virtual or DNA trail or both? I want to help you so that in the future you can spare your loved ones and yourself the tears of guilt and tears of the heart.

For all of you who play by the rules, fill your pride banks and don't ever become a VIP. I think there is a computer virus there that takes otherwise sane, rational, intelligent and seemingly well meaning people and turns them into, well, "weiners" of one kind or another. I don't think I can bring myself to eat a hotdog ever again.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, June 9, 2011


If you replace "winning" with "succeeding" and "win" with "succeed" I like this quote:

Winning(Succeeding)isn't everything,but wanting to win (succeed) is."

Vince Lombardi

Wednesday, June 8, 2011


In my 5/24 blog, I mentioned the work of DR. Leon Festinger in the area of cognitive dissonance. Go back to that if you care.

His theory predicts that those who specify a date that the world will end and face the reality that it didn't happen, will strengthen their views, rather than give them up. Pastor Camping initially said it was a terrible weekend, when the world didn't end on my son's birthday,Saturday May 21. Then he fell right in line with cog diss theory.

Now, it will happen in October, according to Mr.Camping. His beliefs survived the May maybe not events, just as Leon predicted. The question is will all those who gave up their jobs and homes survive. Hopefully, they can go camping till October. I hope he will lend them a tent. Stay tuned.

Bye for Now,


PS Enjoy yourself from now till then as everything goes downhill (or is it uphill?) after then.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011


Hot as we were we went cold in the last six minutes of Thursday nites game.The hot Heat blew a fifteen point lead, hard as that was to believe.Eric plotzed as did all of their fans. My 8 out of 11 from the free throw line could have helped them. I almost jumped on a plane to Dallas to contribute my all. Then I realized that though they would not count my age against me, my height would be a definite disadvantage.

All my life, like the cat cartoon, I have not been overweight,just undertall. That has been a definite disadvantage. I wonder if I can get a handicap sticker for my car?

Go Heat. Save me a spot(at the foul line).

Bye For Now,


Monday, June 6, 2011


I hope you had a peaceful, pleasant and relaxing weekend and found some HOPE along the way.If not, keep looking for it and you will find it soon.

Bye For Now,


Friday, June 3, 2011


Of all the forces that make for a better world,none is so indispensable, none so powerful as hope. Without hope man is only half alive.

Charles Sawyer

Thursday, June 2, 2011


The Miami Heat are red hot. They start slow, but close strong.

So do I. Today at the park, after warming up, I made 8 for 11 from the free throw line. I kid you not! I really did. And there was a strong wind blowing.

Next season, it will be James, Wade, Bosh and moi. If you think they are unbeatable this season, just wait till next!

Now that's optimism at its finest. Hope you have it, too. Fantasies are free. Enjoy them.

Bye for Now,


Wednesday, June 1, 2011


As you know I go hot and sometimes a little cold on our techno world. But, when someone who needed a little support texted me on Saturday night I, once again, realized the value that our New World Order of communications, bring to our tables.

In the old days, that person on a Saturday eve would have called my office number and hopefully, the answering service would have picked up. They would have taken a message and possibly gotten the person's phone number correct. Then, they would try to find me and hopefully, I was home or remembered to take my pager and to change the battery. Then , if I was out, i would have to find a phone and a quarter. Voila, an hour plus later the person might have heard back from me. Maybe. Or maybe Sunday. Maybe never,if it was a new person calling and they mixed up the phone number.It happened many times.

Now, I see the text, respond and we easily go back and forth for a few minutes. My support helps, I receive a thank you message and we go on our way.

Wowy kaflowy! That, my friends, is progress. I just can't help but wonder what further innovations lie ahead. It seems like there can be no more, but there always are new ones coming down the line. It is a great time to be alive. Remember and appreciate that--every day--even when your computer is down, you have too many spam emails and your text is from someone from whom you don't want to hear.

Sorry, my cell phone is ringing. Gotta go.

Bye for Now,


Tuesday, May 31, 2011


Yesterday was Memorial Day to honor and respect all those who have given their life, trying to represent and protect the safety of our country.Thank you and your families for your sacrifices.We asked much too much of you.

I think today we should remember all those who Mother Nature took from us recently and randomly, for no good reason whatsoever!

It had been a tough and rough time for Japan, Joplin, all over Alabama and other southern and mid-western states that suffered devastating loses.OMG!How strong do the winds blow?

We send our kids off to school, clean our homes, drive along without a care and with a text in progress, or lie down at night ASSUMING the best. Sometimes, for no reason I can figure,she, undeservedly, gives out the worst of the worst. That Mother can be a....bitch!

Mother nature is a beautiful woman who I respect for all she has contributed to our great land. BUT, every so often she can punish people for no reason whatsoever. It is very hard to figure out. It makes no sense really, nor does our assumption that it won't happen to us. Yet, we can optimistically, assume that it won't!

Go in peace and safety and take a moment to remember those who were not so fortunate.

Bye For Now,


Monday, May 30, 2011


I heard a TV news anchor end last night's broadcast by saying, "Have a happy Memorial Day."

That sounded really weird to me. How can a day of remembering soldiers killed on the front lines of battle be happy? It would be like wishing a Jewish person to have "A really great Yom Kippur"--the holiest holiday and day of atonement for all sins made during the past year, for which religious Jews fast for 24 hours.You might say, "Have an easy fast" but not a great day.

Similarly, have an easy, but poignant day, remembering all the young blood shed in all past wars and most especially and painfully those since 9/11. War has always been harsh, but seems so out of place in our seemingly evolved times. Isn't it time we found other ways to resolve conflicts among nations or for that matter,between family and friends?

Bye for now,


Friday, May 27, 2011


I wanted to write today either about The Chicago Bull's player, Noah, American Idol, Lady Gaga, Tornadoes, Israel and Palestine, Mother Nature, the Middle East and a host of other topics.

Instead, I thought I would just stay in the positive lane and wish you a good day and a pleasant and peaceful weekend.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, May 26, 2011


There is a foolish corner in the brains of the wisest people.

Hear that, Mr. Camping, Schwarzenegger and Strauss-Kahn?

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


He who neglects to drink of the spring of experience is apt to die of thirst in the desert of ignorance.

Ling Po

Hear that Mr.Camping?

Tuesday, May 24, 2011


(many more than I care to recall)I became fascinated by the work of Dr.Leon Festinger. He developed a Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. He studied many groups and individuals that confirmed that when facing "dissonant" information, instead of abandoning their beliefs, people strengthened them. Dissonant information, in simple terms, is when A is believed to be true and Z actually occurs.

He studied dooms day predictors who, just like the 89-year-old evangelical broadcaster in California, Harold Camping, alerted their followers that the end of the world was coming this case my son's birthday.

Logic would predict that when the end didn't come, the followers would return to their jobs on Wall street or wherever and give it all up. Instead Festinger found that the fact that the world didn't end, actually strengthened the fervor of the true believers. They choose to interpret the results as if their prayers saved the world and just picked another date in the future when all would come undone--this time for real.This could go on till the world finally did come to an end or the end finally came to those predicting it would come.Eventually, we all get recalled or whatever word he used that I am forgetting.

It will be curious to see if Festinger's predictions hold true this time around. So far Harold could not be reached for comment. Perhaps he went, well..... camping!

Bye For Now,


Monday, May 23, 2011


Every so often,seemingly intelligent people, predict that our world is ending on....

I resented that this time they picked my son David's birthday.Give the man a break!

In addition, I resented that they picked a Saturday. Let us enjoy the weekend and blow us to smithereens on a Monday at 8:02 am so that my loyal readers can read my blog at 8:00 A.M.,before they move on.

What would my blog say on that fated day, I wondered? Bullshit! Go to work. The world is not ending. In fact, it is just beginning. God doesn't want to lose us. He or she just wants to guide us toward more healthy times.There is no need to destroy us to teach the few that don't yet get it. Focus on the Governator and the IMF super stud star. Please leave the rest of us, whose pants are zippered and skirts are on, alone.

The most awful thing about these ridiculous predictions is that it causes people to see those good and loyal Christians (or whatever religion) in a negative light. Please try to separate the true believers from the true deceivers. Fortunately, though the latter get media attention, they are in the minority.

More tomorrow.

Bye for Now,


Friday, May 20, 2011


So my printer crashed for no reason other than that is what machines do and I called Brother and they did a quick analysis from some remote place across the world and then sent me a new printer in two days at their expense. They even included new ink cartridges.

Yes, I do understand that they want to continue to earn money from my buying ink, but it is always nice when the world, in their quest to feather their own nest, contributes to ours as well.

In a fair weather, difficult, rule bound and seemingly self-serving world, it is always nice and a bit surprising to be treated well. I appreciate that and feel grateful.

Thank you, brother, for being able to spare a dime! (I understand that young people haven't a clue what this sentence means!) Age, does have its privilege.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, May 19, 2011


Courage does not always roar like a lion. Sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day that says, 'I will try again tomorrow.'
Peter Sheridan

There is no education like adversity.
Benjamin Disraeli

Wednesday, May 18, 2011


As you know from recent blogs my mood has been a bit maudlin lately. It came from too many losses combined with spending the last 9 months hyper focused on my book, "How to Cope Better When Someone You Love has Cancer." It is complete and should be out in a month or so. I am optimistic that it will help many people deal a little better with Cancerville--one hell of a place!

The world is not an easy place, but it is still the best place to be. I marvel at our resilience as people and our ability to adapt, cope and strive to overcome all that is thrown at us, while absorbing much suffering and pain. At the end of the day till the end of our days all we can do is follow the title of this blog, one day and one step at a time.

It may not always be easy, but it is the only way I know. The sign in my office reads, Never Never Never give up! It guides my way and I hope yours, too.

Bye for Now,