Friday, October 1, 2010


At the end of the road upon which we struggle with self-discipline there seems to be an undeniable fact. Namely, that our healthy,goal oriented,take charge adult self is undermined by the little children that run around inside of us.No one, best as I observe, is completely free of his or her little boy or girls influence in some or many ways.

There are both healthy and less than healthy offshoots of that. Our child parts contribute significantly to our happy, creative, magical,spontaneous,adventurous and loving selves.

They also contribute to our impulsive,entitled,demanding, spoiled,need it now,unrealistic,angry,less than confident, insecure and self-destructive selves. In addition, they are the storage center for any and all trauma that occurred while we grew up.Those wounds become infected over time and promote impulse over self-control.

In reality, all addictions are based in and scripted by our child parts. This explains why they make so little sense to us and seem so irrational, self-destructive and ridiculous. This is why people of all ages need to seek sources of healing in order to contain the wild child within and be freed to operate from their more disciplined adult parts.

Picture a tug-a-war between your inner parts. May your adult be strong enough to always win in your efforts to achieve self-discipline. As the sign in my office says, "NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP!

Bye for Now,


1 comment:

  1. Taming and nuturing the child within is an ongoing relationship with ourselves. Probably a good place to start in "relationship renewal".
    Our adult selves need goals, a purpose, engaged in things that we consider to be meaningful. The more we mature emotionally, the more we are equipped to find balance and discipline which you captured in this weeks blog.

    I decided a while ago to make peace with my inner child. Sometimes I laugh at what she is proposing, silly girl.

    Staying in the here and now is important. Planning and being totally aware of what we are working toward is critical.

    Everyday is different, there are lots of experiences and lessons out there if we remain open to them. Staying above the stuff that rocks our boats is a strong perch to rest on.

    Have a fulfilling weekend.

    M. Gegg
    The Tranquility Center
    William Penzer, Ph.D and Associates