Thursday, September 30, 2010

LEVELS OF SELF-DISCIPLINE

Some discipline is demanding requiring much in the way of self-control (think eating/drinking/drugging habits here)and taking charge of hard to break habits.

Other disciplined habits are actually quite simple. Take for example listening to voice mail messages. Seems like a pretty simple and straightforward process. Yet I often encounter people who don't do that. Instead they call back and say, "I didn't listen to your message but I see you called me." I am always polite, but what I really want to say is,"I left you a message for a reason and if you listened to it you would know what I said." This, by the way, is especially annoying when my message concluded,"NO need to call me back."

In addition, there is a tendency for those non message listeners to be among the younger set-the very people who grew up in technoland--the very same people who text serially all day long. Could it be that texting is instantly gratifying and listening to a voice mail message is too much of a delayed gratification? Pushing call back is instant. Then again so is ice cream, french fries,vodka or pills.

Perhaps it is all the same after all and even what appear to be simpler areas of discipline aren't really.

In any event the next time I leave you a message and you are eating cheese fries or enjoying a couple of beers or digging into a gallon of ice cream please take the 9 seconds it takes to listen to my message before calling back.Thanks, No need to call me back!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

MUSING ABOUT THE FAMOUS

I would love to have a conversation with the actress LL or the singer BS (sorry those are her initials as well as her creed!).

I simply want to say, "What the f are u thinkin?" What about life, discipline, responsibility, accountability do you not fully understand?

But it is I who understands addiction mixed with a sense of fame induced entitlement. Together they make a mess over and over. Both are very hard self-made prisons from which to escape. They are the ties that bind and bond with trouble. Just think of all the successful people who dedicated and lost their lives to drugs.Makes no rational sense, really.

They provide a wake up call to the rest of us less than successful and certainly not entitled people.The discipline they lack is the discipline we seek. Hopefully, we shall all find it soon.If not, the consequences are there for all of us.Those do not discriminate that much. At the very least so many have to live with their own guilt rather than their pride. Pride bank deposits trump shame and blame entries any and every day. Go for the former and avoid the latter and feel, well, happy, content and at peace!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

APPROPO OF SELF-DISCIPLINE

Character is what you do when you think no one is
watching.

Character is how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing
for you.

Character is how you behave during the petty aggravations
of everyday life.

Character is how you react when the pressure is on.

Character is deciding beforehand that you're going to do the
right thing.

Found this in my favorite little monthly positive booklet -- Good Stuff.

The only thing I would add is that sometimes, maybe oftentimes, we are not born with character.Some have it early on, but it often takes time to develop. The child has none. The teen is a character, but typically doesn't have much of one. The young adult is searching for something, but I don't think it is character. The thirty something often thinks they have found it, whatever "it" is. By forty we are struggling with midlife,crisis, or otherwise. Hopefully by 50 we have developed a character as described above. Otherwise it is probably too late! Keep searching for it. Elusive as it is it is somewhere near!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, September 27, 2010

SIMPLE DRAMA AND TRAUMA

I have been talking about self-discipline on many levels and in many situations. The simplest I can think of is talking kindly and lovingly to your loved ones. On the surface what could be easier. Beneath the surface it gets pretty murky.

It never ceases to amaze me that people who love each other can speak so harshly to one another. Yet, those very same people can talk so kindly to semi-irrelevant strangers.

Beyond always "hurting the one you love" there are clearer explanations. For one you can usually get away with it. For two, old emotional cess mixes with new stressors and usually exaggerates the mess. Then his cess and yours or your cess and his fight dirty in an F you, F you way or the equivalent. And it just escalates from there . Many such arguments resemble two children in the sandbox fighting over one pail.

People who love each other need to learn the language of love. Many need to review their marital contracts. Check out relationship renewal on our web site to see if we can help you refresh love potion 99...or 98..or 97...or...well you get the drift.

Bye (Love) For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 24, 2010

MOVING THE BALL FORWARD

As some of you know I am no longer a robot (see williampenzer.com/articles). That said I watch football on Sundays. There is much talk about how much they are paid. Not sure what they are worth BUT...their discipline is amazing.

Most of them are fitness personified. They practice hard day after day and in Florida start in the hot summer. Many move with the grace of a ballerina and the speed of a jet. They amaze me in getting through tight situations where it doesn't seem they have a chance. Some of the best just keep on rolling past so many equally big guys.

They, among others, inspire me to keep in the zone. So far I am staying there and plan to continue till I can play with them. Now that's what I call fantasy football.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 23, 2010

TEXTING AND SELF-DISCIPLINE

Saw the news about a school bus driver caught on camera texting on her phone while driving by a student's picture on her phone. Seems like the war of the phones! Busted is she, but not quite.

The board of schools has to vote on her 5 day suspension and their next meeting isn't till October so she just keeps driving kids around for a while.

And while we are at it 5500 people a year are killed by distracted drivers and 450,000 are injured by them. And our loyal legislators still won't pass a law against that which exists in 30 other States.

I believe I told you about the teen who was smoking with her left hand and texting with her right and steering with her elbow. Her car was drifting a little too close for comfort to mine as I headed North on University near Broward Blvd. I honked lightly. Somehow she managed to find a way to give me the finger given how busy her hands were.

I will work on being a little more disciplined in the future. Hopefully, she and you will too.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

DISCIPLINED

D Difficult, but doable
I Id vs super ego
S Self
C Control
I I Count
P Pride Bank
L Lazy Loses
I I Set Goals
N Nothing Can Stop Me
E Each Day I Am
D Determined

This posted on 9/22 without the first letter in each line. Hopefully this makes more sense.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

A TRUE TALE

The following is apropos of yesterday's blog as well as our self-control and self-discipline. Years ago, probably in the 80's, I was trying to help someone with anger management issues. We were not getting very far.

He came in on a Wednesday best as I remember and said, "Doc, we are done". I asked what had happened and he said he had an experience that cured him.

"How did that happen?", I asked. "Simple", he said. "I was going out of town on business. I was at Ft. Lauderdale airport. I was waiting for a parking spot. My left blinker was on as the lady was pulling out of the spot. Just as she left a pick up truck came around the corner and pulled right into "my" spot. I jumped out of my car. I rapped on the window. I was furious. He lowered it." I said, "What the f are you doing taking my spot." He raised a 357 Magnum at my forehead and said, "Do you really want to discuss this any further?" I ran back to my car in a flash.

"I am cured, Doc! You have my word".

Never saw him again.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, September 20, 2010

SELF CONTROL CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

I don't want you to think that self-control, discipline and taking charge is only about what we eat and drink. There are plenty of in shape people who lose it in other areas.

Fridays paper told of a 30 something man who jumped out of a car he and his girlfriend were in to confront another man whom he felt was tail gating too close.The man in the car, feeling threatened, shot him dead. OMG!

I mean was this confrontation really worth it? To lose your life over road rage? Toward what end and for what purpose? Shoot a bird,not a person if you must and move on. In that moment self-discipline was needed. When you take a leap of faith and accost someone else you just don't know with whom you are dealing.

Pick your battles or just eliminate them. The other guy may just have a knife or a gun.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 17, 2010

TAKING CHARGE OF YOU

Most of us like to feel in control. Those same people like to be able to predict the future with certainty. One of the very few things that is certainly predictable is that reducing the intake of calories and increasing the output of exercise causes weight loss. That in turn increases energy,pride, resilience and the likelihood of living a longer and healthier life. The latter is something just about all of us want.

So why is it so hard to do? Why are so many so wildly out of control? There are some answers to this paradox. The kids within us seem to want it all.They can be stronger than our more sensible and cautious adult parts.

More on this next week. Meanwhile have a fun, but disciplined, balanced and take charge weekend.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 16, 2010

BALANCE AND DISCPLINE PAY DIVIDENDS

It is late and I am tired and being disconnected threw me off schedule.

Since we returned home 2 weeks ago I lost 5 1/2 pounds. Even my Paris jeans fit better as I continue to override my fat genes via self control.

My mother was right. Everything in moderation. Discipline is key. Often, I observe the most disciplined can be less so in certain areas of eat and drink or gambling or some form of what I call glop (see stopglop.com)

Let's all band together for the good of our causes. In today's times we can all use some dividends.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

UNSURE

I am not sure if I should heave a sigh of relief for being home and connected or a sigh of regret. I am happy to be home.

Truth be told I actually like email, google and being able to check on/manage my world online. I guess I just enjoy being unplugged every once in a while as it demands much focus and time that could be better spent.

That said, it takes us back to the balance issue I was talking about last week. Everything in moderation including the internet. More on balance and self-discipline tomorrow and beyond.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

TO CONNECT OR NOT TO CONNECT?

I could have called comcast and tried to sort out the problem

But I will be on hold forever. And I won't know my uname and pcode

And the liklihood is I won't clearly understand them

And I'd rather read a book or write one or watch a football game.

And I'm not a robot anymore!

And the more I am disconnected,the more I am connected to me.

And with my friends the I phone and Brad they've got my back. They are my hood!

Home tomorrow to my main connection.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, September 13, 2010

STILL CONNECTED TO MYSELF

My computer is down and my voice is temporarily silenced.
Have we become a little too dependent on our techno world? Not if we stay connected. The same is true of our staying connected with ourselves

Posted with a little help from my I phone and my friend Brad.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, September 10, 2010

MORE ON MOM

As we have all learned by now balance is not about a diet. It is about a discipline. The former works temporarily,maybe. The one we start on Monday can be derailed by Thursday or can go months and many lost pounds that ultimately come back plus.

Mother's balanced and disciplined philosophy lasted almost 50 years. It required sacrifices, but she never saw it that way. Small quantities of that which could make her large satisfied her. She never felt deprived best as I know.She felt in charge of her self and her body.

When you think about it from a perfectly logical, rational and self-protective position there is little to no value added to our lives from french fries, pizza, ice cream and the like. I once timed how long the delightful and delicious tastes linger in my mouth before I swallowed and then wallowed in the guilt.

Try that as an experiment. Here's a hint. It is painfully quick and not worth the calories and fat grams.Of that I am certain.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 9, 2010

JOIN ME IF YOU NEED

If, like me, you have been trying to lose 10 pounds for the last many years feel free to join me in my quest to do that or more.

It takes a great deal of discipline to incorporate a healthier regimen. Yet I have recently witnessed the advantages of someone being in shape and resiliently rebounding from a serious surgery.

Years ago I wrote that just as we can become addicted to unhealthy things, we can become addicted to healthy. That is what my mother did as per yesterday's blog.

Now is the time, pre-holidays, to take charge of our eating, drinking and exercise regimen. There is safety and commitment in numbers. Let me know if you are all in on this "chubby" hand.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

MY MOTHER AND HER BALANCED PHILOSOPHY

My mother lives at almost 100 years. That, in itself, is amazing, especially since my father died at 49. Mom lived double+ Dad.

For 98+ years she lived independently and well. The last year or so has been rough for her and she needs to take her rightful place in Heaven soon.

However, after Dad died in 1960 she went from obese to slim. She is one of the few people I know who never yoyoed.Her philosophy was simple and clear. Everything in moderation.She liked coffee and chocolate. So she would have a cup and a small piece each day. Otherwise she measured everything she ate and kept it all in reasonable proportions.

In addition, she went to the gym twice a week up till she was 98+. Her instructors loved her commitment and passion. She was inspired and inspiring.She loved the gym.

I think the message Mom is leaving for us to follow is just that. She would say, "Enjoy every day. Appreciate that you woke up. Allow yourselves treats, but in small, manageable doses.Watch out for overdoing. It only takes a small piece of chocolate or whatever to satisfy your craving. Anything more is overdoing."

Balanced living makes sense.Try to embrace it. Realize that if you don't you are embracing a plan that will bite you eventually. Watch what you bite!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

GOOD MORNING WAIST LINE USA

During my travels I couldn't help but notice that in many places around the world they look more in shape than we.

The lady who wrote "Why French Women Don't Get Fat" or something close to that missed quite a few French women. French men tend to be thin. French women tend to be all over the place with many looking like french fries won.

I have fat genes which is why I needed to buy size 36 jeans in Paris. That really pissed me off. I may have written a book called YOYO No More (which is on williampenzer.com) but that didn't prevent me from yoyoing all the way up the scale!

So once again I am on a serious diet, bent on losing 20-30 pounds.Will I succeed? YES! Will I learn? Perhaps. Stay tuned.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 3, 2010

A MORE PERSONAL KIND OF BALANCE

Yesterday I talked about how badly the dollar is out of balance with the rest of the world.

Now I want to talk about how out of balance many of us are with ourselves. Forget the dollar vs. the euro. How about our waist lines relative to the rest of the world? Our dollars may not carry much weight. Unfortunately we do and it is oh so unhealthy.

That is where we are going next week. To be thinner or not to be, that is the question. My answer is YES!

I have launched a healthier eating plan based upon the statement, "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels." It worked for me once and it will work for me again.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 2, 2010

THE EURO VS THE DOLLAR

One's excitement at landing in Europe is quickly muted when you hit the cambio or exchange. I stood there realizing that the dollar is not quite worth what one thinks it should be. The euro costs about 40+ cents premium. I gave them $600 and they gave me about e380. Add to that the fact that things cost much more there. A bottle of water in a gas station here runs about a buck. There it is 2-3 euros which is 3+ dollars. Filling a gas tank costs $100 or more.

Think about this. Our Gross Domestic Product (GDP) is about 14 trillion dollars. The next closest in the world is China at about 1.4 trillion. We are the strongest economy in the world by 10 fold. How could it be that our dollar is so deflated? Not to mention that Europe,like us, is drowning in debt--Spain, Portugal,Italy, Greece all seemingly bailed out by France and Germany, while England struggles with 2012 Olympic overload. Something or many somethings are very wrong.

More importantly, what can we do to change this? Who should we put in charge of our great nation? My simple minded opinion is that we elect a business oriented person. Someone who can turn our great country around like they are doing at Ford and GM.

Sarah, you need not apply. We need you to continue keeping an eye on Russia for right now.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

THERE IS ALWAYS A PRICE TO BE PAID

As I said yesterday going away is great BUT coming back to reality can be painful. Consider the following:

appreciable jet lag
2 hours of healthy food shopping to stock up
stacks of mail to be gone through
bills to be caught up on
a haircut after 3+ weeks
plants to be watered
unpacking
wash to be done
a stop at the cleaners..... and worst of all
STEPPING ON THE SCALE

The diet starts today and continues indefinitely.You know you are in trouble when the haircut looks like a good 1/2 pound loss--may be whole pound!!

I can well appreciate your lack of empathy.

Bye For Now,

Bill