Monday, August 16, 2010

BECOMING A BETTER GARDENER

REPOSTED FROM MAY:

In marriage and other long term relationships it is easy to take one's partner for granted. In the courtship stage we put our best feet forward. Over time those same feet start to stink as we ignore the basics of love.

I always say, love is a verb. It is easier to say , "I Love You," than demonstrate it consistently over time. If we went door to door I guesstimate that over 80% of couples have at least one partner feeling their needs are not being met. Similarly, but for children, religious beliefs, financial issues and other practical concerns the divorce rate would be much higher than its current 50%.

Take a step back and look objectively at your partnership. Stop blaming it on him/her.Are you doing everything you can to show your partner, respect, affirmation and loving friendship? Do you want a better relationship? Do you want the relationship to continue? If you answered No, Yes, Yes now is the time to step back into the relationship with a fresh perspective and a new set of re-courtship goals. Find those loving feet and put them forward again. You can do it if you want to. In all likelihood it will be appreciated and reciprocated.

As I have said before, the garden of love needs the equivalent of sunshine, water, fertilizer and weeding.To experience the flowers of love, you need to be a better gardener. You once were. You can be that person again. I am optimistic about that--realistically optimistic.

Bye For Now,

Bill

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