Friday, July 30, 2010


If you have followed my blogs or read at least three you have probably surmised that I am a pretty serious guy. I would think I was just born that way, although as a kid play ruled my life. My father died when I was 18 and everything shifted to serious and somber. I switched from comic books to important books in a microsecond of time.

I have made great strides in this and soon there will be an article on my web site I just finished called, Taking Better Care of You: I'm Not A Robot....Anymore. It is not a bad read if I do say so myself.

Being serious, however, it is not easy to cause me to laugh out loud (currently referred to as LOL). I appreciate good natured and effective humor but so many jokes are just not that funny. A book I just downloaded on my Kindle (see yesterday's blog) has me laughing till I cry. It is written by Miamiite (are there really 2 i's in that word?)Dave Barry. It is called, "I'll Mature When I'm Dead." The title drew me to it.

In it he essays about men and women and raising kids and visiting Miami as well as owning a dog. It is everyday life through the lens of a really funny guy. Laughing is healing so we are told. If that is truly the case then this book can cure you of whatever you are suffering. And, if it doesn't cure you it will sure distract you from the pains from which you experience.

Read it and weep happy tears of hilarity. Enter Dave's world and you will exit cleansed, refreshed, energized and happier. I am stopping here as I need to read another chapter.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, July 29, 2010


As an avid reader I received my Father's Day gift from my daughter and son-in-law with some apprehension. Would I be able to switch habits of over 60 years and read from a Kindle instead of a regular book?

The quick answer is that I have. All of a sudden it has become my new best friend. I take it with me to the beach and keep it beside me in my home. I read it soon after I awake and right before going to sleep. I find it fascinating. Between my home and office I must have 1500 books accumulated over a lifetime. They sit in place and acquire dust. My Kindle can store that many. This little, light weight piece of technology is a heavy weight.

And it remembers my place-no book mark needed. And it allows me to jump from book to book as is my habit. And the download is complete in mini seconds.And when I travel it is a lot easier than schlepping two hard covers and three soft covers and a variety of magazines. All I have to take is my Kindle.

And best of all whenever I read I think about my lovely daughter and her wonderful husband. Do you think that is why they bought me such a generous gift? I sure hope so.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, July 28, 2010


trying to soar like an Eagle. Yesterday's blog contained some good words. But trying to soar is hard and can drain us dry. Not all days allow for soaring.

However, once you get the hang of it you have more good days than not. Consider this simple minded analogy. If I clean my car I tend to keep it clean. If it is a mess of papers,empty bags, half drunk water bottles, etc. I tend to make it messier. Mess and emotional cess pile up upon itself. Dam grams beget more of the same.The latter are equivalent to soaring. The former are equivalent to crashing.Being optimistic and positive help us to gain altitude as we gain attitude.

So my point is that once you start soarng the likelihood is you will do that more often. As pride bank deposits build up they feed more of the same. Kinda like a diet. Once you get in that groove nothing can tempt you out of it.

The secret to diets and life is to find that grove and rhythm and keep soaring a you know what.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, July 27, 2010


Like the eagle, once we have learned to soar it almost seems effortless.

More on this tomorrow.

Bye For Now,


Monday, July 26, 2010


Thursday and Friday I blogged about Forgiveness.

Funny(it starts with F) enough I can't remember the other two F words I was going to blog about. One of the Frustrations (another F word) of getting older is that memory becomes Fragile (F again). If you don't write it down you don't quite remember. You can walk into a room with a clear need and in a flash have no clue why you came in to the room.

Then I went to blog and couldn't get on to it even though I used the right user name and pass code. I wanted to scream the F word loudly. I resisted the temptation because I realized none of it was all that important in the scheme of things.Most things aren't and it always helps to see things in perspective. Save your emotional energy for times that truly deserve it.

I will finish up the F word blogs as soon as I remember the words or find the sticky note on which I wrote them. FAGETTABOUTIT!

Bye For Now,


Friday, July 23, 2010


Yesterdays blog dealt with forgiving oneself for real or imagined imperfections.

The same is really true in dealing with others. Obviously, a few actions or words that others do or say may not be forgivable. But I always liked what Oprah said a few years ago(though I am not a big fan and no one person should earn 300+ million a year). What she said once was, "Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you have to invite them over for potato salad."

What that means to me is that you can forgive someone and thereby get rid of the angst and the anger, but don't have to be their friend or have anything to do with them again. I like that idea.

Hope you do too. If not, I forgive you none-the-less.

Bye For Now,


Thursday, July 22, 2010


The first is Forgiveness. It is very important that we be able to forgive ourselves. So many are so hard on themselves. Reality can be easily distorted as people scream at themselves for perceived shortcomings and mistakes.

Truth is we all make mistakes. Hindsight is easy. Foresight comes more slowly if at all. When we yell at ourselves or ruminate at our supposed "failures" it is usually our parent's voice that takes over. Most would reassure a friend for the very thing they rail at themselves.

Try to catch yourself being a "hard" marker and lighten up a bit. Give yourself credit for trying and for past successes in the very area you are now beating yourself up. Remind yourself you are a person who is most likely dedicated to others more than yourself. The not so nice people of the world rarely, if ever, criticize themselves as they are too busy blaming others for their faults and failings.

Try to be more a cheer leader than a jeer leader for yourself. The odds are you deserve that and the odds are your rational mind knows you do.

More F words tomorrow.

Bye For Now,


Wednesday, July 21, 2010


what's coming around the corner. I have said that before and I am saying it again and I will probably keep saying it is true and because

that awareness helps guide you toward taking better care of you in all respects. Much as we need to be opTIMistic we also need to be realistic. You know what (sh__) happens, especially when we least expect it. Most of the time we can't predict or prevent it.

All we can do is take better care of ourselves. That is really all we can do. So please do it. The likelihood is your self deserves it and your self will appreciate it.

Bye For Now,


Tuesday, July 20, 2010


From time to time I notice how complex even simple communications can become. I schedule appointments and confirm via voice mail or email. Most of the time it works just fine, but sometimes it gets really confusing. The response I get doesn't jibe with the message I left or sent. Then I need to recall or re email. Ultimately it gets resolved and clarified.

My point, however, is if something as simple and straightforward as an appointment time can get so screwed up, we can only imagine how more complicated communications can become tangled and a source of stress, strain and confusion.

Become a communications clarifier. "Did I understand you to say....?", Is what you mean....?", Help me understand....?", "Say again...".

Asking simple questions at confusing times solves much of the communication gap and clarifies the message.

Of all the human functions in which we engage, nothing is as critical and as confusing as communications. Aim to set the record straight so you and whomever are on the same page or the same sentence.

Bye For Now,


Monday, July 19, 2010


Taking a break is a good thing. It clears the mind and relaxes the body. It is a reward for hard, serious work. It is play.We all deserve to play every once in a while.

When we were kids that is all we did just about. As we grew older life became more and more serious. I'm serious! The words break, vacation, respite all refer to taking some time for ourselves.

I am glad I did. I hope you do soon.

Bye For Now,


Monday, July 5, 2010


Sometimes my own words come back to help me. So between not being a robot and jonesing on prevention and taking better care of me I am taking a break.

I shall return blogging mid-July. I am hopeful you will follow my lead and find a way to do the same for you.

Hope you enjoy a safe and peaceful fourth of July. Gd bless America. Gd bless us all.

Bye For Now,

Friday, July 2, 2010


When you ignore your mind it has an uncanny, actually unconscious way of letting you know. There is nothing subtle about anxiety, depression,addictions and other glopful behaviors and other ways our minds burp and fart at will.

If you neglect your teeth you run the risk of a cavity. If you neglect your mind you run the risk of a cavity in your dam and a tsunami of pool leakage. We don't have a drill or filler. It takes a while to fill those holes. Please don't let it get that far.

As I said yesterday or perhaps the day before, an ounce of prevention....."

Check out previous blogs about vitaminds and mental floss. Time to take better care of you. Me too! And I shall.

Bye For Now,

Thursday, July 1, 2010


In my quest to be kinder, more caring and healthier to myself I treated myself to Sirius radio in my car. I'm serious!

South Florida lacks radio stations that play pleasant music. The one smooth jazz station I listened to converted to rap many months ago. The classical station goes in and out for no reason I know. So for a relatively small sum I bought myself so many choices.

I am neither a Howard nor Martha kind of guy. But I do enjoy the range of music and an occasional joke now and then.

The point is that it doesn't have to be a two hour workout at the gym or eating only fish oil and lettuce. There are many ways to take better care of you and your job is to find them and every once in a while indulge and give yourself a gift. Believe it or not you deserve it.

Bye For Now,