Tuesday, June 15, 2010

ON REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS AND OPTIMISM

Yesterday's post, simple as it was, was huge in meaning.

Some part failure and some part achievement. The Dalai Lama was speaking to realistic expectations of ourselves, our relationships and our lives.

We tend to be perfectionistic seekers, expecting all to go well all the time. NOT! Years ago in a book called, "Getting Back Up From an Emotional Down, I wrote about "the myth of perfect goodness." Haven't read the book? Call me and I will send a complimentary copy to you.

Realistic optimism says, hopefully some of the time things go well and as planned, but some of the time "life and you know what else happens".

We need to learn from our mistakes, not beat ourselves up for them. After all, we are only human. So true and so often forgotten in our quest for "perfect goodness".

As a very successful man once said, "Bill I have made many mistakes in my life-- but I have only made them once." Hopefully, you can say that too.

Bye for Now,

Bill

1 comment:

  1. I liked your work on "the myth of perfect goodness", also the myths of many aspects and avenues of our lives. At every big benchmark in life there are expectations, judgements, critque's, which mold the way we live and think because we have too in order to succeed right?
    God, I pray that I never go to "that place" again.

    Mimi Gegg, M. Ed
    Director
    The Tranquility Center
    William Penzer , Ph. D and Associates

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