Friday, December 17, 2010

WISHING YOU A VERY MERRY............

I want to wish all of my readers Happy Holidays and a healthy and fulfilling New Year. I am optimistic that 2011 will be a very good year for the very good people who are smart enough to read my blogs.

That said, I am taking a break for the next month or so to clear my head and finish the book I have been working on,"How To Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer." My goal is to have it published by Spring, 2011.

Meanwhile there are 143 blogs on copewiththeeconomy.com and 459 on mindlymatters.com. Feel free to go back and read all the ones you missed.There will be a test in February!

Be well and happy.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, December 16, 2010

THE YIN OF TECHNOLOGY REPEATED

Since no one liked my barber pole blog,I am back at the techno stuff.

Last week I finally concluded that technology is becoming and will continue to be our conscience. That's not a bad thing at all.Our world needs a really SUPER super ego.

Even simple technology like video replays can help that cause. Tell that to the Jets conditioning coach, Sal. He stuck out his knee on the sidelines and tripped a Dolphin
who was already out of bounds. Sal was really way out of bounds and by his own admission, post replay, just not thinking.

Replay outed him. Suspended for the rest of the season without pay and fined 25K. Sigmund would be pleased.

As of Wednesday he was suspended indefinitely when it was learned he organized the line-up of those five guys. It was "premeditated" tripping. What in heavens name was he tripping on?

The moral of the story is watch your back and your legs. Big brother and sister technology are watching!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

MAD AT MADOFF ONCE AGAIN

If you scroll back a couple of years I spent some blogs on Bernie, who made off with people's money. He also stole from charities. No obvious conscience in sight. Now he sits in jail for 150 years. No "get out of jail "card for him.

Now he has paid the ultimate price. His 46 year old son, Mark, hung himself on the second anniversary of his father's debacle. What a sad time for this family,Mark's younger brother and especially Bernie's grandchildren, who lost their dad.

My standard line is that cess makes a mess. So does greed and glopful behaviors. Why, I wonder, don't people understand that?

Bernie was brilliant. He could have made a more than good living the old fashioned way.What made him chose the fast lane to hell. I guess we will never know.Hopefully, we can learn from him to go in the other direction.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

YOU LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVERYDAY

I never knew before today that the red and white barber pole has it origins in blood.
Barbers were the first surgeons. Shave and a hair cut and get your appendix removed.

So they would hang their bloody white surgical cloths outside on a pole to dry.From that simple beginning came the standard pole symbol of a barber shop.

Now aren't you glad you know that? If not, I could rant on and on about technology.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, December 13, 2010

THE YIN OF TECHNOLOGY

I know that you thought I was moving on after Friday's summary technology statement.

Over the weekend I read some fascinating articles on advances of robot surgery for prostate cancer as well as many other procedures. They emphasized minimally invasive, faster recovery, more accurate and targeted interventions.

In addition, it is possible for a surgeon in the US to operate robotically and remotely on someone far, far away. Surgery is becoming a video game.

Of all the conveniences of technology as well as those to come, I believe it will be in the field of medicine that we will see the most progress. These will truly be a Yin blessing of grand proportion.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, December 10, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

I wanted to conclude this rant and rave about the techno world with a quote or two. Unfortunately, I found none. So here goes:

Technology is the best of times and sometimes the worst of times all rolled into
one amazing grace evolution and revolution. The I phone seems like an
incredible hand held computer that also serves as a phone. But what will be in
five years? Only time and Steve Jobs know for sure. What I know is that it will
be even more amazing and yet, none-the-less, a little more scary! WNP

Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, December 9, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

Technology screwed up and didn't publish yesterday's blog till almost 8PM. No big deal in the scheme of things.All five of my loyal readers had to wait an extra 12 hours.Sorry.

Today I was thinking that the ease of communication, while overused and abused at times,is quite amazing. When I think of the good old days, they really weren't all that good in terms of so much delayed communications.

Think about the day my father died. My mother had to call the City College office. They had to trace what class I was in and send a message to the room with a monitor for me to come home. In today's world that would be handled by a text that read, "Bad day in the Bronx.Come home at once."

Take it one step further. The medical technology today would have prevented Dad's death. All he needed was an angioplasty which unfortunately was not yet invented. Same for my father-in-law who died at age 51.

Despite some glitches here and there we are quite fortunate to be living in these times.Feel grateful. Tweet everyone you know and post that on your facebook. Quickly, before wikileaks lets it out of the bag.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

THE YIN, THE YANG AND THE BIG BANG

I had a revelation this cold morning in South Florida.

I had received feedback that I was looking at technology through outdated eyes. I assume they meant old fashioned and not old fogy!

So I began to think perhaps the wiki leaks, school test scandals and even the facebook communications of teens as well as the "cheater" outed by texts, cell phone bills or whatever may have a positive value.At the end of the day it causes everyone to be more accountable and think twice before they leap into glopful behavior (see previous blogs).Perhaps technology has become a supplement to our collective and individual consciences. Perhaps it is and will continue to strengthen what Freud called our super-egos--the part of our mental system which reigns in our animal based ids.

Here is what I thought. The Pentagon will be more cautious about what and how they communicate. So will business people and scammers. Parents will need to provide more oversight. People engaged in inappropriate situations will have to think twice before outing themselves via technology or taking the risk of detection.Profs will have to be a little more creative in their exams,instead of just copying out of a book. And no one will ever use a mimeograph again!

In sum, we will have to consider the "big bang"possibilities in an information gone wild era. Maybe, just maybe, the techno-revolution is the best thing that ever happened to civilization. Perhaps not! Time will tell.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

THE YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

So I picked up a newspaper in my car from November that I had not yet read. Seems there was a cheating scandal at UCF. There are websites which provide the questions and answers text book authors write to help Profs make their exams. These "question banks" are no different than the ones I used as a fellow in the early 60's to make tests for the Profs I was assisting. I made them on a mimeograph machine of all things.

So 200+ students got the questions for a midterm test in an aptly titled, Strategic Management" class. Everyone did so well they suspected a leak. So everyone got in trouble as well as the Prof whose was chided for using the question bank knowing they are sold on line.So he made up a new exam.............. I would have given them an A for their strategic management.

There is a definite need for regulation. I rest my case!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, December 6, 2010

THE YIN OF TECHNOLOGY

For all of my moaning and groaning about the loopholes of our new technology, there is always a saving grace.

My uverse wireless router seemed down.Multiple functions were not happening.

I called their tech support number. I fought with their automatic voice guy and won. I won't tell you what I called him as he kept telling me to reboot my computer. "Done that!", I said among other things. I finally talked to Husaan in Canada.

He jumped on it quickly.He was able to Mac adjust the router remotely that had become unadjusted for reasons unknown. It all works now. It is all good now. This part is all amazing now. Every time I feel out of control in cyberspace something happens to help me to feel back in control.Awesome.

Now if we could only regulate that sucker!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, December 3, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

I truly believe that one of these days someone will find a way to establish rules and guidelines that govern cyberspace. If not, I believe that we will take matters into our own hands, fingers and keyboards and do our best to protect ourselves and our loved ones.

Someone needs to come up with an iprotectu app. Someone or many someones need to slow it all down to a more manageable level. At some point the risk reward level needs to be weighted toward the latter, rather than the former.

Realize that we have only just begun. The techno revolution will accelerate in the next decade beyond our wildest imagination.Brilliant minds are developing brilliant plans to suck us in. Now is the time to set the bar and capitalize on the good and minimize the not so good. If not, we will be downgraded to pawns in a world controlled and owned by technology. Fight really hard to never allow that to happen.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, December 2, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

It is an interesting coincidence that just when I start talking about the dangerous side of technology that Wiki takes a big leak and lets the world take a big peak!

The scary part here is that the Pentagon is so easily and serially hackable. The Pentagon!!! I mean this is not your local bowling alley or deli. I betcha they don't even have Norton virus protection on their computers! Their password is probably nogatnep (pentagon backwards) for you non-dyslexic types.They probably still use that greasy PC kids stuff.

They actually hired a former hacker to help them get more secure. Isn't that like Bank of America hiring a bank robber to get the inside scoop. Surely there are high tech, high priced security firms out there that could help. Or do they only spend five hundred dollars on essentials like 3 inch nails, toilet seats and three ring binders (that they probably leave laying around) with government secrets. I'm quite sure they lock the toilet seats which is why they cost so much. Tight assed is not tight lipped!

All kidding aside this is pretty serious. If politicos and undercover CIA types can't keep secrets, how do the rest of us stand a chance? You better stop texting your secret boy or girlfriend,lest Wiki leak it to your beloved. 4warned is 4armed! Next time use a pay phone.They don't tell and they don't leak and they don't really exist anymore.

I'm going to stop now as I need to look over my shoulder. So do you!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

Appropo of yesterday's blog my very favorite cartoon shows a dog at a keyboard. He is sitting on his hind legs at a desk chair and his friend, a smaller dog, is on the floor. He says to his friend, "The thing I like about computers is that no one knows you are a dog!"

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

As I said yesterday, much as I am grateful for technology I am also wary of it. One obvious glitch has to do with authenticity. It is as simple as not knowing for sure who the email is really from or its intent. It is as complicated as all of the ways, cyber-crooks have figured out how to steal our money.

It also involves photo shopping pictures and editing videos in ways that can trick us and deceive.

In addition, people can say things in an email that they would not utter in face to face communications.In that sense the communication is not authentic. These lead to ugly and wasteful e-fights that bite.

Not to mention that dating web sites are filled with distortions designed to impress. Both ages and waistlines somehow get reduced in that "disinformation" exchange. My son experienced one of those extreme "makeovers" years ago where the picture was either very old or someone elses. He drove his boat right on by the dock as it swayed beneath her weight!

And for all its helpful information double check Wikipedia as sometimes its facts are more creative than real.

As I said many years ago, "It is not paranoid to be paranoid these days!" And that was before the home computer age.

So, let's enjoy all the advantages that our techno-revolution provides while approaching it with a cautious eye of curious concern. The old adage still applies,"If it seems too good to be true it probably is!"

Bye For Now,

Bill

P.S. How do you know Bill really wrote this? Well,because who else would be silly enough to be sitting at his Apple at noon on a Sunday? But you will never know for sure!!

Monday, November 29, 2010

THE YIN AND YANG OF TECHNOLOGY

There is nothing quite so amazing to me as being able to text my son to make sure he arrived safely on his four hour ride back home and have him respond while he is attending a hockey game. Remember, I am from the pay phone (anyone remember them?) era.

But much as I am grateful for these amazing advances I am wary of them.Nothing so powerful,in my opinion, should be without regulation, supervision and oversight.In fact, wherever deregulation has entered the scene, trouble has followed.Think banking here! I believe that was the point of the book, "Lord Of The Flies", which if you haven't read, is worth the time.

I believe this is particularly true with children and teens and am a firm believer that parents install spyware and do whatever else it takes to make sure that no harm is done. I also believe that the minimum age for social networks should be 18 as these seeming simple networks of communications can quickly become hurtful and even lethal. Rumor mongers and shit stirrers can and do cause much pain.

I am also concerned about authenticity. More on that tomorrow.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, November 26, 2010

AS WE HEAD TOWARD THANKSGIVING : PART III

Be grateful for your home. It may be a mansion or a hovel. It may be a studio apartment that hardly gives you room to move about the cabin. It doesn't matter. It is your home. It is special. It smells nice even when it is not so neat.

Coming home is always a nice feeling. Even when you travel all over the world, getting home is nice and comforting. It is not a hotel or friends house. It is your space. Your territory. Your stuff. It is not living out of a suit case. It is living in a place to which we have become attached and which gives us comfort and a
sense of security.

Feel grateful that you have some place to call your own.

I hope you enjoy the holiday in your space. If not, I hope you come home to it real soon and feel grateful to be back.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

AS WE HEAD TOWARD THANKSGIVING : PART II

Today is your turn to receive gratitude from YOU!

Take a few minutes. No matter what state of mind and body you are in. No matter the state of your house or your finances or your stress or whatever.

For what are you grateful to yourself? What have you done for yourself lately? It doesn't have to be big, but it can be. Little things often mean the most.Please finish this statement, "I AM GRATEFUL TO MYSELF FOR______________________________. Hopefully, your list is long.

We tend to be frugal in heaping praise on our self. Go for it. "Why?" you ask. Simply because, silly rabbit, the likelihood is you deserve it.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

AS WE HEAD TOWARD THANKSGIVING: PART I

Loyal readers of my blog (all 5 of you) know that I am big on gratitude which helps our attitude.

So let's be grateful for being alive,for living in America, still the greatest democracy on earth despite some mismanagement,for having a roof over our heads and "what to eat" as my Grandmother would say.

Let's also say thanks for all the the amazing things technology does for us from health care to information access to communications and turning a blind eye to the silly or hurtful things.

Let's say thanks to those around us, our family and friends who give us love, support, acceptance, understanding and so much more.

And tomorrow, let's say thanks to us!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, November 22, 2010

I FINALLY REMEMBERED

what Woody Allen said,

"I don't believe in an afterlife, but just in case I am taking a change of underwear."

Cute. Always hedge your bet and protect your butt!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, November 19, 2010

APROPOS OF YESTERDAY'S BLOG

I still can't remember what Woody said, but:

If you're going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now. Marie Osmond

Whether it's the best of times or the worst of times,it's the only time you've got. Art Buchwald

It is not enough to reach for the brass ring. You must also enjoy the merry-go-round.
Julie Andrews

I went to the bookstore and asked the saleswoman, "Where is the self-help section? She said if she told me, it would defeat the purpose. George Carlin

I will keep looking for the Woody--quote that is!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, November 18, 2010

NOT A LAUGHING MATTER, BUT LAUGHING MATTERS

I have been reading about the healing and therapeutic value of laughter. There is powerful anecdotal and scientific evidence to show that it works in all kinds of ways.

I have known this for many years, I always inject some laughs in my helping others.

I believe that if we laugh throughout our day we will be happier and more positive. Laugh at the silly things that happen or that you do. Laugh at the world, even during these challenging times. Laugh at Lucy or Archie B's reruns or any comedy of your choice.

Laughing vents and stimulates healthy brain chemicals, naturally. It is a salve for our bodies and our minds.

I wish I could think of something funny to say to make you laugh right now. Woody Allen once said, "....", well I can't remember, but I know he said something funny once or twice.Read my blogs about aging and you will understand why I can't remember. Wish they made Viagra to stretch and strengthen our memory.

Now, what was it I was talking about?

If you just smiled or laughed score one for you and me! LOL every day and you will find it to be an elixir,not of youth, but of life.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

FROM HERO TO VILLAIN TO HERO AGAIN

It is interesting to observe that some people can regain their status after taking a major hit.

Think Bill Clinton, Rick Scott(Florida's new Governor) and now Michael Vick, the quarterback for Philadelphia. Not so long ago he was the SOB who was the dirty dog who did something dirty with dogs. He went to jail, did his time and is now a hero once again.The announcers on Monday night football are tripping over themselves praising his poise and performance.As I type they are talking about how he made up his mind to do it differently this time around.

In a certain sense, these are good stories. They show that people can be seduced toward glop, flop and bop back having learned from their experience. What more can we ask? That they and we get it right the first time around. So much easier. So much calmer. So much less costly.

Watch the glop so you can avoid it completely.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

GRATITUDE IS COOL

I talk, from time to time, about feeling grateful for the small things. It is an important part of maintaining our mindly matters and happiness.

I am grateful for the cooler weather that we have enjoyed the past few weeks after the hottest summer on record. May it be a white Christmas or at least a cool one.

Hope you are grateful too!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, November 15, 2010

SOMETIMES LITTLE THINGS DO MEAN A LOT

You just never know in life what can make the difference. A friend of mine, who is part of the excellent team at Sierra Tucson hospital in Arizona, gave me a spiral notebook that has the hospital's name and "celebrating 25 years" on the cover. I assume people don't really use that most of the time, especially with notepads right on cellphones.

However, I carry mine everywhere and use it to write down thoughts about the books I am writing that pop into my head out of nowhere. As I said in Thursdays blog, at this age/stage I must write it down or lose it forever.

It was just a small gift, but became so helpful to me. Do something little for someone today and assume it will become something large.

You can find a relevant article on williampenzer.com that I wrote many years ago. It is called "Little Kindneses." They still work!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, November 12, 2010

HOW QUICKLY WE SEEM TO FORGET

I predicted that the rescued miners and the rescuers had their day of fame and would quickly disappear from our radar. Information seems to travel beyond the speed of sound these days and today's headline news is quickly gone. In the case of the miners it is not a big deal as they got many big deals for their ordeal.

But what about Haiti? They were hit again with torrential rains and the cholera is running out of control. It's New Orleans all over again and we can't even imply that the President is racist!

I don't think there is really much you and I can do, but perhaps donate some clothing or money if anyone is still collecting. World leaders need to take note of the disaster and send whatever is needed to help clean it up and rebuild the place ASAP.

There is too much suffering going on for it to be ignored. And there won't be book deals or endorsements for those who survive. I don't even think Disney will invite them. It is really a very sad scene. I am optimistically hoping the world responds.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, November 11, 2010

NOT SO SOFT BALL

For a while now I have been questioning the involvement of our young in extracurricular activities. Often, they seem much too extra for my comfort. I believe in the learning, discipline and team work value of sports and other activities for children. But, everything in moderation.

OK. In previous blogs I have admitted to being an older,senior person, aka an old fart. Maybe I am missing something. But maybe I'm not!

When I call a person at 8:58PM and her young daughter just walked in from softball on a school night,I think to myself this is crazy. When I observed families over the summer, traveling all over the state for softball tournaments for their 10 or younger daughters, I thought to myself, this is crazy. They play 2 or more games in a day. It is 100+ degrees in the shade in July. It consumes the whole weekend and much money and almost all the quality family time.Not much one on one when your kid is in the outfield sweating like a pig,while you are doing the same in the stands. And there is no beer to be had.It's a triple...bummer! Not to mention the dirty looks you give your kid when she strikes out or drops the ball. Stop with the looks! Its just an f'in game don't you know?

This all reminded me of a family in a traveling hockey league whose young sons played in a tournament each year as far away as Canada or Chicago over Thanksgiving weekend. Seemed like a turkey t(rot) to me.

Remember, sports for me were unorganized, disorganized treats on the streets of the Bronx, N.Y. or the school yard. No uniforms, coaches, practices, etc. Just pure fun and games. We made up the rules as we went along. These were our fields of glory, all in the name of playing.I define play as having fun in a relaxed and easy atmosphere.Organized sports, etc. seem much too serious with frustrated jocks as coaches. But even when my kids were young it was one practice during the week at 5ish and a game on Saturday morning or afternoon.

By the way, I am not only picking on sports. I encounter children who do piano lessons, gymnastics and swim team all in the same week. My personal feeling is that kids have plenty of time to be stressed in their adult lives,just not by the age of 10!

I think we should go back to the calmer days. I fear the wave of super parents are trying to raise super kids and are simply super stressing the family out. Kids really need and deserve to be kids.Parents really need to be practical and protective, as well as enjoy their weekend family and personal time out. Multi-game tournaments in the South Florida heat really need and deserve to be abolished.There is really no point.

I know some of you will disagree. Meet you at the school yard for a showdown game of one on one hoops. No, maybe just a game of HORSE. After all, I am an old fart!!

Then again my set shot is 8 out of 10 from the free throw line! OK, maybe 7 on a windy day!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

FLYING HIGH AND BEING TAKEN LOW

A few years ago I wrote an article called, "Vulture Culture," which I failed to edit and post on our web site. Hope to get that up soon.

There, I predicted that banks would charge an entrance fee for admission to a branch and airlines would charge for using the bathroom. Neither of these have come to pass just yet, but the charges keep coming.

Spirit Airlines charges extra for a seat(even though that is what you buy for your fare), carry on luggage and check in luggage. They also charge for water, other drinks and snacks. Their seats do not recline, but they will probably charge someday for that option.

I wonder if eventually we will be charged for a licensed pilot, less for an unlicensed one and even less for a robot. Prepare to pay for a pee!

The good news is that the airlines are finally making a profit. Better they should just raise fares and not nickel and dime us into annoyance.So far, Southwest has taken the high road. We appreciate that.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

WHERE DID THEY GO?

A few blogs ago I predicted that the miners of Chile would quickly disappear from the radar hype.In fact, they did.

May all those greedy SOB's who raced there to take advantage of their fifteen minutes of fame lose their ass.

May the miners enjoy their rising, literally and figuratively, to the challenge. They did well. The world, well, not so well.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, November 8, 2010

ACCEPTING YOUR AGING

Getting older is a little weird. To me it feels as if I went to sleep a 40something year old man and woke up the next day,Rip Van Winkle style, looking much like a hairier version of my grandfather.Inside my mind I still feel forty something,but inside and outside my body I am 60something, almost 70. OMG! Holy Shit!! How did this ever happen, I ask myself, along with all the other macabre questions that go with it?

All I and you, if the worn shoe fits, can do is accept it as part of the never changing life cycle. We are born, we grow older (and hopefully wiser) and ultimately we move to the next level. It has always been this way and will always be this way.

All we can do is stare aging square in the more wrinkled face and say, "I will be OK. I will keep striving toward healthier. I have more time and more good times ahead. I will apply all the life lessons I have learned and try my best to age with grace,dignity and balance.I will accept that I can't do all of the things I used to,but that I can still do many of them.I will use my time wisely and enjoyably.

And after I do all that I'll get a tummy tuck, face lift, hair transplant,botox, tattoos, butt shaping and start using that penis enlarging stuff I receive 3 emails a day about!" Just kidding about the latter stuff,but not about the former, though I must admit those before and after photos of the enlarger do look impressive.

The only real anti-aging ingredients lie in acceptance and positivism.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, November 5, 2010

INTO THE LIGHT

I like the saying, "Better to Light a Candle than to Curse the Darkness" attributed to Confuscius. The older we get the more important it is to do just that. We need to light one, before ours goes out.

It doesn't have to be major. It just has to be.

Bye For Now,
Bill

Thursday, November 4, 2010

IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO GROW OLD GRACEFULLY

Apropos of yesterday's blog


You are as old as your mind,
not the calendar.
Make each day a new day.
Refuse to relive old days.
Make bold plans.
Set new personal bests.
Journey into the unknown with abandon.

From "It's Never Too Late" by Patrick Lindsay.

GO SENIORS. NOW IS YOUR (OUR) TIME TO SHINE BRIGHTLY.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

I PUT IT SOMEPLACE FOR SAFE KEEPING

For those of us who struggle with aging I have good news. We are not alone.

You know how you take that important paper and place it somewhere safe and special so you will remember where you put it. And then, like me, you can't for the life of you remember where it is. Well, there is hope for us yet!

The Island of Figi was granted its independence in 1970 by the U.K. As it celebrated forty years of independence this year the paper granting that, presented by Prince Charles, went missing. The order is nowhere to be found.

Fortunately, the U.K. agreed to send over a photocopy.

We should be so lucky!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

ONE PLUS ONE EQUALS WHATEVER YOU MAKE OF IT

I read today that the average American has 13 credit cards. That collective credit card debt is in the trillions of dollars. Those are pretty scary numbers. Will we all go belly up as time goes by? What if we all went bankrupt in the same year? We would drown in red ink and China would buy us for a large discount.

I think it is time for all of us to cut back. The wild spending days of the last decade need to be reigned in. Reality needs to be faced. We are not as wealthy as when the stock and then real estate markets were flying high. The middle class is heading for extinction.

Now is the time to adopt some more conservative philosophies that invest, rather than divest, in your futures and those of your young. We need to bring back the phrase of my youth. Namely, "We can't afford it." An I phone in every hand is a nice ideal, but it just may not be practical in our New World Economic Order.

I played with a "pregnant" basketball because my parents could not afford to buy me a new one. I survived as did my jump shot. You will too.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, November 1, 2010

THEY MUST HAVE READ MY BLOG ON WEDNESDAY!

The Heat's home opener on Friday night was a blowout. The dream team connected well. They showed focus, discipline, teamwork and hunger. They wanted it badly and they took it all the way.

The same is true for us. We need to draw upon those same characteristics in how we live our lives. We need to be at the top of our game. We also need to love the ones we love. The Heat don't have to do that. We do!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, October 29, 2010

TODAY'S CHALLENGE

Do one thing different today no matter how small. Put your left shoe on first or your right whichever is the opposite of what you usually do. Take a right turn when you usually take a left.Drink your coffee before your juice. Shave the opposite side of your face first from what you normally do.Put your eye make-up on differently from your usual way.

It loosens our creature of habit compulsions when we make some simple changes, which might just pave the way for more complicated ones.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, October 28, 2010

AN OPTIMISTIC CHALLENGE FOR TODAY

Pick something today and expect positive results. Expect whatever it is to go smoothly and comfortably. It doesn't have to be a biggy in the scheme of things. It could be as simple as a ride to the store or a phone call to a friend.

Just have positive expectations and see what happens and, if you like, let me know.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

NIGHTMARES ARE DREAMS GONE WILD

Believe me when I say I wish only happy dreams for you always.

I couldn't help but react to the Miami Heat's loss last night. Yes, I understand it is only the start of a new season and a new team and they need to get their bearings. BUT. After all the hype and all the practice and all the dream team talk you would have thunk they could have done just a little better than a nightmare loss on opening night.

So what does that tell us mortals who don't get paid multi-millions? Imperfection is the norm. We are, despite our pimples, OK. Nothing is for sure. Enjoy your time, best as you can. Feel proud of you and don't ever let the heat fall on you. Be your best friend. Hopefully Bosh, Wade and James will become that as well.If not, who really cares?

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

PRACTICING WHAT I PREACH/TEACH

Flew home tonight from NYC. Turbulence terrible through a continuous series of lightening storms.

We chose to believe we would be fine, but for some rocking and rolling going on. Got in later than expected, but the important thing is we got in.

Practicing realistic optimistic positivism helps us get through the bumpy spots in our lives, both above the ground and on it.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, October 25, 2010

SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY II

There is much research to support the view that what we expect often happens. Not in the sense of expecting to win the lotto,but in the sense of expecting positive outcomes that are within our control or influence.

Go into surgery, a test, a challenging job assignment, etc. with positive expectations and research shows over and over that the results will likely be positive and much more so than those who go in with negative expectations.

So try to seek out optimism, hopefulness and positive expectations in all areas of your life and you will likely achieve more positive results, be in a better, less agitated mood and enjoy a certain degree of happiness and more importantly peace of mind.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, October 21, 2010

SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY

An often overlooked strategy for coping in today's complex and frustrating world is to wake up and say, "I'm going to have a good day today." The likelihood is that you will.Try it and see for yourself.

Bye For Now,
Bill

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

A SIMPLE MESSAGE

Saw a bumper sticker over the weekend that said:

JUST BE KIND TODAY

I encourage us all to follow that simple guideline.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

A ROCKY ROAD IS WAITING UP AHEAD

On Friday I applauded the miners and their international rescue team. Today I scratch my head just a bit. They went from miner to major too quickly if you ask me. They went from being stuck under the rocks to rock stars too quickly as well. And what about their massive team without whose help they would not be on level ground today?

Obviously all types of companies from Disney to sunglasses to a variety in between want to capture the allure of their "BRAND". But these are simple people who weren't even allowed to catch their breathes and breath in real air before they were besieged with a swarm of greedy people trying to use and buy them.

Apparently they knew this was coming as they signed a pact to stand together as they had done down below. I am not upset with them as much as for them. They needed to rejoin their families, heal from their trauma and re balance themselves on level and solid ground. Instead the world threw them into even more turmoil and confusion. It was and will be as if the earth beneath their feed will crash down upon them once again. They are ill prepared for this new found fame and it would have been kinder if they gave them a ticker tape parade in their home town before they were sent into stardom.

On the other side of the story in today's fast paced world of information their rescue will be old news very soon. I hope all the vultures that came running down lose their ass!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, October 18, 2010

COMMON THEMES

If the creator had a purpose in equipping us with a neck,he surely meant for us to stick it out.
Arthur Koestler

Inventing is a combination of brains and materials. The more brains you use, the less material you need.
Charles Kettering

Decide what you want and decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work.
H.L. Hunt

I think quotes are like projective tests of personality. We read into them what fits us. To me these all related to my writing project which is coming along well. The working title is "How To Cope Better When Someone You Love Has Cancer."

In that regard please do me a big favor. Tomorrow, 10/19 between 8 and 8:10 PM please say prayers for two twin boys, Jake and Chase, who are doing a bone marrow transplant this week to save Jake from Leukemia. They need all the help we and the good lord can provide. Thanks for taking your time to do that.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, October 15, 2010

REAL LIFE ACTION HEROES

Bravo to the international teamwork that saved the miners in Chile. Bravo to the men themselves.

A great study of confidence,courage,optimism,hopefulness,adaptation and survival.

We can all take some plays to apply to our lives from their playbook.

The movie of this inspirational story should be in theaters very soon.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, October 14, 2010

NEW SKINNY IS OLD FAT FOR ME!

The other day they reported that scientists have discovered 30 new gene variations of obesity and fat. Duh! They didn't have to spend all that money researching 250,000 people. All they had to do was study me. All my life my fat genes made my jeans too tight. Either that or they shrink in the closet overnight, especially if one is a "shrink".

I have always been convinced that my genes came with fat cells attached. Others eat food and gain no weight that I only have to smell to gain the pounds they should have.

"The study also found that people who inherit many of the BMI-increasing DNA variants from their parents weigh more than those who inherit few of the variants". Duh again. That is like saying people who eat mostly fast food are more obese than those who eat salads without dressing!

I eat mostly the latter. So what is my problem. Duh, I guess the scientists would say it was my genes. Never thought of that.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

A SAD REMINDER

Friday's blog reminded us all to enjoy our lives and take some time off from time to time given that we just don't know what's coming around the corner. Later that same day my colleague's father died unexpectedly. To me that was a sad irony that validated my words.He was just about my age.

He was also a good,hardworking and loving family man. The picture portrayed by the Priest and his son,daughter and coworker was of a genuinely kind and caring person. That is a very nice way to exit our world. BUT why oh why do the good die so young?

May he rest in the peace he has surely earned. Though small in stature he was very tall in character. May his family find comfort in the trail of goodness he has left behind and all of their rich and valuable memories.

May we all live our lives as this man did. At the end of the road what's in your "pride bank" counts the most. Like Rosario, strive to be an emotional billionaire. He earned his way directly into Heaven the hard way.By being kind and loving every single day.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

OK, BACK TO POSITIVISM!

Yesterday's blog was a bit of a rant. Every so often that is good for the soul and the mind. Feeling cleansed, I am back on track.

Friday I met an interesting man. He and his friend have developed an amazing website for recovering addicts called intherooms.com It offers much in the way of information, support and fellowship. It makes support a let your fingers do the walking experience.It is not intended to replace meetings, but as a supplement to them.

There are hundreds of thousands of members all over the world who have joined for free.Just think about this potential, especially in places where meetings are few and geographically far between. Imagine the power of world wide web support when that compulsive itch hits someone in recovery.

We all know there is much that is not right with the internet. But these guys have demonstrated that from an i seed can spring a giant beanstalk that gives so much to so many in need. In my book they get the Stop Glop award of the year. Check it out and let others know that in Ft.Lauderdale,some people get it right! As for those who don't let's hope they move away real soon.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, October 11, 2010

I TRY BUT IT AIN'T ALWAYS EASY

I really try to practice my philosophy of realistic optimism. As the millions who follow this blog know, I try to encourage a positive point of view.

But every once in a while I need to SCREAM-- OMG!

We have a person running for the top state office whose history leaves much to be desired. We watch as school board members are serially outed in scandals where they accepted low ball bribes for high ball favors.

Now we have a 67 year old married Federal Judge who paid to have sex with a stripper and bought her drugs as well.Adds a whole new meaning to "Here comes the judge!"

Then we have the idiots who picket military funerals with really ugly signs because they believe Gd kills soldiers because America accepts homosexuals and abortion.

Free speech allows many things including me to blog. There are,however, limits. I hope the Supreme Court finds them to keep these warped folks from tormenting sad folks whose children gave their lives for our country.

As for politicians, sell your souls if you must, but get what they are worth. Ten thousand or so in today's world is not enough to put your reputation and your future on the line.

I like the motto-- Do No Harm! Let us practice that.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, October 8, 2010

happiness NOW

In life there is a tendency to delay gratification and happiness. I often think of the frequently heard story of the poor guy who worked and worked and saved and saved for retirement. Six or less months into it he drops dead. Or his wife does. Done. It is kinda like a sporting event. When the clock ticks down and the final bell rings the game is over. We don't like to think about that but it is undeniably true.

I believe in intermittent enjoyment of life as we progress through the life cycle.Happiness, pleasure and fun doesn't have to be earned. It is part of our birthright. I have never been part of the "all work and no play" team even though I have worked very hard in my life. I much prefer, "work hard, play hard."

Keep in mind that play, fun and happiness can be as simple as a walk in the park, a day at the beach or watching a movie on TV. Or it can be as extravagant as an enjoyable vacation. Every once in a while or more frequently if you can, deal yourself a "get out of jail free" card and escape. You will be glad you did.

Life is short, death is long and we are all heading there sooner or later. Choose happy and fun whenever you can. Cause you just never know what's coming around the corner!!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, October 7, 2010

THE $75,000 QUESTION

The research mentioned yesterday polled more than 450,000 people. Asked them how they felt the day before and why.

Turns out that it wasn't low income that made people sadder. It was the byproducts of that in terms of stress, health problems and care, relationship conflicts and other associated issues.

In addition, as we would expect, self-esteem was influenced by the amount earned.The more people earn above 75k the more people believe that their life is working for them.Of interest is that more money doesn't seem to add to the happiness equation, but does add to feelings of enjoying a better life.

The authors explain this as people having enough expendable cash to enjoy their lives by doing fun things. All of this makes sense, BUT....

What if you have lots of money for fun, but a less than positive partnerly relationship compared to the opposite? Most would choose the better relationship and the less money model. What if you had lots of money. but lots of health related issues? Ditto.What if........? well you get my drift.

There is an old saying that goes, "Rich or poor it's good to have money." I would say, "It's nice to have wealth if you have your health, love and the ability to enjoy your life. Otherwise, better to have the other three.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

CHOOSE HAPPY

Yesterday's quotes seemed to be wise words regarding finding happiness.

In many ways they fly in the face of recent research by a Nobel winning economist/ psychologist.The good doctors found that the cost of happiness is $75,000 a year. This flies in the face of the old saying that, "Money can't buy you happiness."

In fact, my experience suggests that the old saying is right on. I have met many people in my career who are financially happy, but personally miserable.With money comes burdens,responsibilities and unrealistic expectations. Wealthy people often sing the Rolling Stones, "Can't Get No Satisfaction."

Some of the happiest people I have ever met was in East and West Africa where they have little materially, but much culturally and communally. They have many smiles and little stress. They help each other in a "It takes a village" way.

The same is true here. There are many hard working people I have met who are part of communities that get together frequently and have pure, unadulterated FUN. Laughs are free as are dancing, socializing,listening to music, a Sunday picnic,etc. Keeping it simple can keep it happy and fulfilling.

More tomorrow on this research, Meanwhile,as the song says, "Don't Worry, Be Happy," no matter your income. After all, what else can we really do?

I once read a book called, "Happiness Is A Choice." Choose it, you'll like it!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

HAPPINESS

Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Aristotle

To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness.
Bertrand Russell

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance. The wise grows it under his feet.
James Oppenheim

Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.
Guillaume Apollinaire

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, October 4, 2010

DISCIPLINE

D Difficult, but doable
I Id vs super ego
S Self
C Control
I I Count
P Pride Bank
L Lazy Loses
I I Set Goals
N Nothing Can Stop Me
E Each Day I Am
D Determined

This posted on 9/22 without the first letter in each line. Hopefully this makes more sense.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, October 1, 2010

SELF-DISCIPLINE IS A TUG-A-WAR

At the end of the road upon which we struggle with self-discipline there seems to be an undeniable fact. Namely, that our healthy,goal oriented,take charge adult self is undermined by the little children that run around inside of us.No one, best as I observe, is completely free of his or her little boy or girls influence in some or many ways.

There are both healthy and less than healthy offshoots of that. Our child parts contribute significantly to our happy, creative, magical,spontaneous,adventurous and loving selves.

They also contribute to our impulsive,entitled,demanding, spoiled,need it now,unrealistic,angry,less than confident, insecure and self-destructive selves. In addition, they are the storage center for any and all trauma that occurred while we grew up.Those wounds become infected over time and promote impulse over self-control.

In reality, all addictions are based in and scripted by our child parts. This explains why they make so little sense to us and seem so irrational, self-destructive and ridiculous. This is why people of all ages need to seek sources of healing in order to contain the wild child within and be freed to operate from their more disciplined adult parts.

Picture a tug-a-war between your inner parts. May your adult be strong enough to always win in your efforts to achieve self-discipline. As the sign in my office says, "NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 30, 2010

LEVELS OF SELF-DISCIPLINE

Some discipline is demanding requiring much in the way of self-control (think eating/drinking/drugging habits here)and taking charge of hard to break habits.

Other disciplined habits are actually quite simple. Take for example listening to voice mail messages. Seems like a pretty simple and straightforward process. Yet I often encounter people who don't do that. Instead they call back and say, "I didn't listen to your message but I see you called me." I am always polite, but what I really want to say is,"I left you a message for a reason and if you listened to it you would know what I said." This, by the way, is especially annoying when my message concluded,"NO need to call me back."

In addition, there is a tendency for those non message listeners to be among the younger set-the very people who grew up in technoland--the very same people who text serially all day long. Could it be that texting is instantly gratifying and listening to a voice mail message is too much of a delayed gratification? Pushing call back is instant. Then again so is ice cream, french fries,vodka or pills.

Perhaps it is all the same after all and even what appear to be simpler areas of discipline aren't really.

In any event the next time I leave you a message and you are eating cheese fries or enjoying a couple of beers or digging into a gallon of ice cream please take the 9 seconds it takes to listen to my message before calling back.Thanks, No need to call me back!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

MUSING ABOUT THE FAMOUS

I would love to have a conversation with the actress LL or the singer BS (sorry those are her initials as well as her creed!).

I simply want to say, "What the f are u thinkin?" What about life, discipline, responsibility, accountability do you not fully understand?

But it is I who understands addiction mixed with a sense of fame induced entitlement. Together they make a mess over and over. Both are very hard self-made prisons from which to escape. They are the ties that bind and bond with trouble. Just think of all the successful people who dedicated and lost their lives to drugs.Makes no rational sense, really.

They provide a wake up call to the rest of us less than successful and certainly not entitled people.The discipline they lack is the discipline we seek. Hopefully, we shall all find it soon.If not, the consequences are there for all of us.Those do not discriminate that much. At the very least so many have to live with their own guilt rather than their pride. Pride bank deposits trump shame and blame entries any and every day. Go for the former and avoid the latter and feel, well, happy, content and at peace!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

APPROPO OF SELF-DISCIPLINE

Character is what you do when you think no one is
watching.

Character is how you treat people who can do absolutely nothing
for you.

Character is how you behave during the petty aggravations
of everyday life.

Character is how you react when the pressure is on.

Character is deciding beforehand that you're going to do the
right thing.

Found this in my favorite little monthly positive booklet -- Good Stuff.

The only thing I would add is that sometimes, maybe oftentimes, we are not born with character.Some have it early on, but it often takes time to develop. The child has none. The teen is a character, but typically doesn't have much of one. The young adult is searching for something, but I don't think it is character. The thirty something often thinks they have found it, whatever "it" is. By forty we are struggling with midlife,crisis, or otherwise. Hopefully by 50 we have developed a character as described above. Otherwise it is probably too late! Keep searching for it. Elusive as it is it is somewhere near!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, September 27, 2010

SIMPLE DRAMA AND TRAUMA

I have been talking about self-discipline on many levels and in many situations. The simplest I can think of is talking kindly and lovingly to your loved ones. On the surface what could be easier. Beneath the surface it gets pretty murky.

It never ceases to amaze me that people who love each other can speak so harshly to one another. Yet, those very same people can talk so kindly to semi-irrelevant strangers.

Beyond always "hurting the one you love" there are clearer explanations. For one you can usually get away with it. For two, old emotional cess mixes with new stressors and usually exaggerates the mess. Then his cess and yours or your cess and his fight dirty in an F you, F you way or the equivalent. And it just escalates from there . Many such arguments resemble two children in the sandbox fighting over one pail.

People who love each other need to learn the language of love. Many need to review their marital contracts. Check out relationship renewal on our web site to see if we can help you refresh love potion 99...or 98..or 97...or...well you get the drift.

Bye (Love) For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 24, 2010

MOVING THE BALL FORWARD

As some of you know I am no longer a robot (see williampenzer.com/articles). That said I watch football on Sundays. There is much talk about how much they are paid. Not sure what they are worth BUT...their discipline is amazing.

Most of them are fitness personified. They practice hard day after day and in Florida start in the hot summer. Many move with the grace of a ballerina and the speed of a jet. They amaze me in getting through tight situations where it doesn't seem they have a chance. Some of the best just keep on rolling past so many equally big guys.

They, among others, inspire me to keep in the zone. So far I am staying there and plan to continue till I can play with them. Now that's what I call fantasy football.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 23, 2010

TEXTING AND SELF-DISCIPLINE

Saw the news about a school bus driver caught on camera texting on her phone while driving by a student's picture on her phone. Seems like the war of the phones! Busted is she, but not quite.

The board of schools has to vote on her 5 day suspension and their next meeting isn't till October so she just keeps driving kids around for a while.

And while we are at it 5500 people a year are killed by distracted drivers and 450,000 are injured by them. And our loyal legislators still won't pass a law against that which exists in 30 other States.

I believe I told you about the teen who was smoking with her left hand and texting with her right and steering with her elbow. Her car was drifting a little too close for comfort to mine as I headed North on University near Broward Blvd. I honked lightly. Somehow she managed to find a way to give me the finger given how busy her hands were.

I will work on being a little more disciplined in the future. Hopefully, she and you will too.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

DISCIPLINED

D Difficult, but doable
I Id vs super ego
S Self
C Control
I I Count
P Pride Bank
L Lazy Loses
I I Set Goals
N Nothing Can Stop Me
E Each Day I Am
D Determined

This posted on 9/22 without the first letter in each line. Hopefully this makes more sense.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

A TRUE TALE

The following is apropos of yesterday's blog as well as our self-control and self-discipline. Years ago, probably in the 80's, I was trying to help someone with anger management issues. We were not getting very far.

He came in on a Wednesday best as I remember and said, "Doc, we are done". I asked what had happened and he said he had an experience that cured him.

"How did that happen?", I asked. "Simple", he said. "I was going out of town on business. I was at Ft. Lauderdale airport. I was waiting for a parking spot. My left blinker was on as the lady was pulling out of the spot. Just as she left a pick up truck came around the corner and pulled right into "my" spot. I jumped out of my car. I rapped on the window. I was furious. He lowered it." I said, "What the f are you doing taking my spot." He raised a 357 Magnum at my forehead and said, "Do you really want to discuss this any further?" I ran back to my car in a flash.

"I am cured, Doc! You have my word".

Never saw him again.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, September 20, 2010

SELF CONTROL CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

I don't want you to think that self-control, discipline and taking charge is only about what we eat and drink. There are plenty of in shape people who lose it in other areas.

Fridays paper told of a 30 something man who jumped out of a car he and his girlfriend were in to confront another man whom he felt was tail gating too close.The man in the car, feeling threatened, shot him dead. OMG!

I mean was this confrontation really worth it? To lose your life over road rage? Toward what end and for what purpose? Shoot a bird,not a person if you must and move on. In that moment self-discipline was needed. When you take a leap of faith and accost someone else you just don't know with whom you are dealing.

Pick your battles or just eliminate them. The other guy may just have a knife or a gun.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 17, 2010

TAKING CHARGE OF YOU

Most of us like to feel in control. Those same people like to be able to predict the future with certainty. One of the very few things that is certainly predictable is that reducing the intake of calories and increasing the output of exercise causes weight loss. That in turn increases energy,pride, resilience and the likelihood of living a longer and healthier life. The latter is something just about all of us want.

So why is it so hard to do? Why are so many so wildly out of control? There are some answers to this paradox. The kids within us seem to want it all.They can be stronger than our more sensible and cautious adult parts.

More on this next week. Meanwhile have a fun, but disciplined, balanced and take charge weekend.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 16, 2010

BALANCE AND DISCPLINE PAY DIVIDENDS

It is late and I am tired and being disconnected threw me off schedule.

Since we returned home 2 weeks ago I lost 5 1/2 pounds. Even my Paris jeans fit better as I continue to override my fat genes via self control.

My mother was right. Everything in moderation. Discipline is key. Often, I observe the most disciplined can be less so in certain areas of eat and drink or gambling or some form of what I call glop (see stopglop.com)

Let's all band together for the good of our causes. In today's times we can all use some dividends.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

UNSURE

I am not sure if I should heave a sigh of relief for being home and connected or a sigh of regret. I am happy to be home.

Truth be told I actually like email, google and being able to check on/manage my world online. I guess I just enjoy being unplugged every once in a while as it demands much focus and time that could be better spent.

That said, it takes us back to the balance issue I was talking about last week. Everything in moderation including the internet. More on balance and self-discipline tomorrow and beyond.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

TO CONNECT OR NOT TO CONNECT?

I could have called comcast and tried to sort out the problem

But I will be on hold forever. And I won't know my uname and pcode

And the liklihood is I won't clearly understand them

And I'd rather read a book or write one or watch a football game.

And I'm not a robot anymore!

And the more I am disconnected,the more I am connected to me.

And with my friends the I phone and Brad they've got my back. They are my hood!

Home tomorrow to my main connection.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Monday, September 13, 2010

STILL CONNECTED TO MYSELF

My computer is down and my voice is temporarily silenced.
Have we become a little too dependent on our techno world? Not if we stay connected. The same is true of our staying connected with ourselves

Posted with a little help from my I phone and my friend Brad.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, September 10, 2010

MORE ON MOM

As we have all learned by now balance is not about a diet. It is about a discipline. The former works temporarily,maybe. The one we start on Monday can be derailed by Thursday or can go months and many lost pounds that ultimately come back plus.

Mother's balanced and disciplined philosophy lasted almost 50 years. It required sacrifices, but she never saw it that way. Small quantities of that which could make her large satisfied her. She never felt deprived best as I know.She felt in charge of her self and her body.

When you think about it from a perfectly logical, rational and self-protective position there is little to no value added to our lives from french fries, pizza, ice cream and the like. I once timed how long the delightful and delicious tastes linger in my mouth before I swallowed and then wallowed in the guilt.

Try that as an experiment. Here's a hint. It is painfully quick and not worth the calories and fat grams.Of that I am certain.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 9, 2010

JOIN ME IF YOU NEED

If, like me, you have been trying to lose 10 pounds for the last many years feel free to join me in my quest to do that or more.

It takes a great deal of discipline to incorporate a healthier regimen. Yet I have recently witnessed the advantages of someone being in shape and resiliently rebounding from a serious surgery.

Years ago I wrote that just as we can become addicted to unhealthy things, we can become addicted to healthy. That is what my mother did as per yesterday's blog.

Now is the time, pre-holidays, to take charge of our eating, drinking and exercise regimen. There is safety and commitment in numbers. Let me know if you are all in on this "chubby" hand.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

MY MOTHER AND HER BALANCED PHILOSOPHY

My mother lives at almost 100 years. That, in itself, is amazing, especially since my father died at 49. Mom lived double+ Dad.

For 98+ years she lived independently and well. The last year or so has been rough for her and she needs to take her rightful place in Heaven soon.

However, after Dad died in 1960 she went from obese to slim. She is one of the few people I know who never yoyoed.Her philosophy was simple and clear. Everything in moderation.She liked coffee and chocolate. So she would have a cup and a small piece each day. Otherwise she measured everything she ate and kept it all in reasonable proportions.

In addition, she went to the gym twice a week up till she was 98+. Her instructors loved her commitment and passion. She was inspired and inspiring.She loved the gym.

I think the message Mom is leaving for us to follow is just that. She would say, "Enjoy every day. Appreciate that you woke up. Allow yourselves treats, but in small, manageable doses.Watch out for overdoing. It only takes a small piece of chocolate or whatever to satisfy your craving. Anything more is overdoing."

Balanced living makes sense.Try to embrace it. Realize that if you don't you are embracing a plan that will bite you eventually. Watch what you bite!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

GOOD MORNING WAIST LINE USA

During my travels I couldn't help but notice that in many places around the world they look more in shape than we.

The lady who wrote "Why French Women Don't Get Fat" or something close to that missed quite a few French women. French men tend to be thin. French women tend to be all over the place with many looking like french fries won.

I have fat genes which is why I needed to buy size 36 jeans in Paris. That really pissed me off. I may have written a book called YOYO No More (which is on williampenzer.com) but that didn't prevent me from yoyoing all the way up the scale!

So once again I am on a serious diet, bent on losing 20-30 pounds.Will I succeed? YES! Will I learn? Perhaps. Stay tuned.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, September 3, 2010

A MORE PERSONAL KIND OF BALANCE

Yesterday I talked about how badly the dollar is out of balance with the rest of the world.

Now I want to talk about how out of balance many of us are with ourselves. Forget the dollar vs. the euro. How about our waist lines relative to the rest of the world? Our dollars may not carry much weight. Unfortunately we do and it is oh so unhealthy.

That is where we are going next week. To be thinner or not to be, that is the question. My answer is YES!

I have launched a healthier eating plan based upon the statement, "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels." It worked for me once and it will work for me again.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, September 2, 2010

THE EURO VS THE DOLLAR

One's excitement at landing in Europe is quickly muted when you hit the cambio or exchange. I stood there realizing that the dollar is not quite worth what one thinks it should be. The euro costs about 40+ cents premium. I gave them $600 and they gave me about e380. Add to that the fact that things cost much more there. A bottle of water in a gas station here runs about a buck. There it is 2-3 euros which is 3+ dollars. Filling a gas tank costs $100 or more.

Think about this. Our Gross Domestic Product (GDP) is about 14 trillion dollars. The next closest in the world is China at about 1.4 trillion. We are the strongest economy in the world by 10 fold. How could it be that our dollar is so deflated? Not to mention that Europe,like us, is drowning in debt--Spain, Portugal,Italy, Greece all seemingly bailed out by France and Germany, while England struggles with 2012 Olympic overload. Something or many somethings are very wrong.

More importantly, what can we do to change this? Who should we put in charge of our great nation? My simple minded opinion is that we elect a business oriented person. Someone who can turn our great country around like they are doing at Ford and GM.

Sarah, you need not apply. We need you to continue keeping an eye on Russia for right now.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

THERE IS ALWAYS A PRICE TO BE PAID

As I said yesterday going away is great BUT coming back to reality can be painful. Consider the following:

appreciable jet lag
2 hours of healthy food shopping to stock up
stacks of mail to be gone through
bills to be caught up on
a haircut after 3+ weeks
plants to be watered
unpacking
wash to be done
a stop at the cleaners..... and worst of all
STEPPING ON THE SCALE

The diet starts today and continues indefinitely.You know you are in trouble when the haircut looks like a good 1/2 pound loss--may be whole pound!!

I can well appreciate your lack of empathy.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

I'M BACK!!

Taking a break is a good thing. It clears the mind and relaxes the body. It is a reward for hard, serious work. It is play.We all deserve to play every once in a while.

When we were kids that is all we did just about. As we grew older life became more and more serious. I'm serious! The words break, vacation, respite all refer to taking some time for ourselves.

I am glad I did. I hope you do soon.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, August 30, 2010

THE FREQUENCY OF INTIMACY

There is one more thing I would like to say about sex and relationships. I feel and fear that the world has become so complex and demanding that younger people do not have time to enjoy their passions to the fullest. I think it gets relegated to much less frequency than is healthy or desirable. By younger I mean those in their late 30's and early 40's. The teens are doing just fine in this regard. Too fine, if you ask me!

Think about it. Sex is pleasure. It is loving. It is stress reducing and it is free. It burns calories. It churns positive feelings. It feels good. It contributes to the beautiful flowers that grow in your garden of love. It is not everything, but it is something important.

What other activity has so many benefits and so few costs? What other activity is so talked about,joked about and often is not that frequently enjoyed. Obviously, there is no "right" number. But, hopefully, if you are in a relationship your response to "when was the last time you were intimate?" is not months/years ago. If it is there is likely a problem or many that need to be addressed. Don't ignore the symptoms. Use them to enter relationship rehab.

Serious problems in relationships usually don't go away on their own. In fact, they multiply and get worse.

The keys to a healthy relationship lie in open, adult to adult communications,making partnerly decisions together, fun and laughter together,enjoyable family times and love-making. Be sure to include them all in reasonable balance.

Bye For Now,

Bill

THE FREQUENCY OF INTIMACY

There is one more thing I would like to say about sex and relationships. I feel and fear that the world has become so complex and demanding that younger people do not have time to enjoy their passions to the fullest. I think it gets relegated to much less frequency than is healthy or desirable. By younger I mean those in their late 30's and early 40's. The teens are doing just fine in this regard. Too fine, if you ask me!

Think about it. Sex is pleasure. It is loving. It is stress reducing and it is free. It burns calories. It churns positive feelings. It feels good. It contributes to the beautiful flowers that grow in your garden of love. It is not everything, but it is something important.

What other activity has so many benefits and so few costs? What other activity is so talked about,joked about and often is not that frequently enjoyed. Obviously, there is no "right" number. But, hopefully, if you are in a relationship your response to "when was the last time you were intimate?" is not months/years ago. If it is there is likely a problem or many that need to be addressed. Don't ignore the symptoms. Use them to enter relationship rehab.

Serious problems in relationships usually don't go away on their own. In fact, they multiply and get worse.

The keys to a healthy relationship lie in open, adult to adult communications,making partnerly decisions together, fun and laughter together,enjoyable family times and love-making. Be sure to include them all in reasonable balance.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, August 27, 2010

SEX AND PARTNERSHIP

I have come to find it hard (that's not a good way to start this blog on sex!) to blog about sexual matters. So many individual/couple differences. So much variability. Too many possibilities. So many unknowns.

Sex is one of many expressions of love. Sometimes it has nothing at all to do with that. My hope for your relationship is that it works for both of you and that you can enjoy all of its positive benefits together. As well, my hope is that it is a way to exchange and communicate love, tenderness and caring in a mutually satisfying way. The more you make love, the less you make war. Of that I am convinced!

If not, there are helpful,certified sex therapists who can help to get to a better place.

As I see it sexual interaction is a most democratic experience. Whatever you enjoy, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone,is fine. It is not the center piece of a relationship, but it is a special piece. Oops, I may have done it again!

Bad( I mean Bye) For Now,

Bill

Thursday, August 26, 2010

PAINT THOSE WALLS WITH A RED HEART OF LOVE!

Except in extreme relationship situations of abuse, abandonment,serial infidelity, addiction and the like,many who have divorced say they wish they stayed with their first marriage.

Most of the time relationship rehab is better than divorce--especially if young children are involved. Even in today's tweet, facebook, eHarmony,texting world there is still something sacrosanct and special about a family. Or maybe I'm just an old fashioned guy? But, frankly I don't think so. The horse and carriage may have gone out of style, but love and marriage have not.

Years ago, in the Marriage and Divorce Series Parts I-IV (that appears on williampenzer.com) I wrote that oftentimes divorce is like tearing down the walls when all they needed was a paint job.

I hope you will work on painting those walls a bright color, rather than tearing them down needlessly. Paint like your life depending on it simply because, in fact, it does!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

NOT A LAUGHING MATTER!

Many writers and marriage therapists use sex as a barometer of a relationship.It is one measure, but not always accurate. I have met many couples who have a wonderful sexual relationship, but not much of a partnership. I have met others who's intimacy is almost non-existent, but have wonderful, caring, partnerships of love and fulfillment.

Sex is a wide ranging and idiosyncratic experience for couples. Like finger prints, no two are quite alike.

I believe a much better barometer of the relationship is the couple's collective laughter. The more the joking, the less the yoking. Life generally these days is much too serious. If you can't laugh it up with your life partner and see the silliness in so much of your day to day struggles, then with whom can you laugh?

If you and your partner are not laughing much then there might be something wrong. Get some help sooner than later. Relationship problems need relationship rehab. That is not a laughing matter.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

THE EVER CHANGING FACES OF LOVE

I know I promised to talk about sex this week,but I need to share something before we get to that.

Love is ever changing.It is hardly ever what it was,but doesn't have to be what it isn't meant to be. It needn't be harsh or just chronic bickering. It should not be critical parent to bad boy/girl. It is not supposed to be two people living under one roof doing their own things. It is a partnership "till death...".

Some things about love remain constant. It is sharing through good and not so good times. It is caring about how the other feels and what the other needs and viceversa. It is reciprocal,mutual,equitable. It is nice and easy as Frankie is singing as I type. It is real and it is respectful.It sits atop realistic expectations. It accepts each others idiosyn"crazies". It takes account of and appreciates all the years of time, energy and emotion invested. It counts it all!

As time goes on it is not usually the wild, passionate early on fun and carefree times of old. Life, kids,age and stresses take their toll on love in that way just as it does on our bodies and minds. But it can still be filled with laughter and fun, looking forward to special times together and words only understood by you both.

Trite as it sounds love can mellow, soften and open up like special wine from a good year. The year you wed qualifies! Cherish it, celebrate it and do the same for and with each other.


Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, August 23, 2010

AN UNDENIABLE TRUTH!

No matter your politics or beliefs in global warming for that matter, it was sad to learn that the Gores were splitting after 40 years of marriage.

That is a really long time for a couple to be together and then decide to divorce. It makes me wonder what happened and whether these intelligent people previously sought relationship assistance. If so, what could have been so terribly wrong to cause a break up of their long standing partnership.

Though affairs were quickly denied, time will tell.

To me it just reinforces the idea that whether you are a high,low or no profile couple and no matter how long you are together relationships need rehab.

I will go so far as to say that all couples could benefit from a few counseling visits every few years or reading the same relationship guide or attending a workshop together to identify where weeds have replaced flowers, so they can be pulled.

Next week we will look at the complicated subject of relationships and sex. Have a "make love not war" weekend.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, August 20, 2010

DON'T BECOME A STATISTIC-BECOME LOVERS AGAIN

In a new and upbeat marital guide,For Better, Tara Parker-Pope devotes a chapter to debunking the statistic that 50% of marriages end in divorce. She believes marital stats are improving each decade. About 23% of college grads who married in the 70's split within ten years. For those who wed in the 90's that stat drops to 16%.

But a Penn State Sociologist, Paul Amato, reports after a thorough review of divorce stats that the 50% figure appears to be accurate.

A consistent finding is that less-educated,lower income couples divorce more often than college grads.

All statistics aside at Relationship Rehab we feel that divorce is destructive to all parties concerned and that couples, especially those with young children, have a responsibility to put their energies into resolving problems,improving communications,reestablishing commitments and rebuilding their garden of love.

We have had enough positive experiences to believe that much more than 50% of couples in the "sunkenship" category(see yesterdays blog) can fill the holes in their garden and become whole again- thereby avoiding the divorce debacle!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, August 19, 2010

THE STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

FRIENDSHIP
C0URTSHIP
RELATIONSHIP
LOVESHIP
MARITALSHIP
PARTNERSHIP
PARENTSHIP

SUNKENSHIP

RELATIONSHIP REHAB (ASAP 954 647 8191)
RELATIONSHIP RENEWAL
LOVESHIP/FRIENDSHIP/PARTNERSHIP
OR
DIVORCE

OBVIOUSLY,IT IS BEST TO GET TO RELATIONSHIP REHAB B4 YOUR LOVE BOAT SINKS!!!

Bye for Now,

Bill

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

FUNNY GUY

Last week I spoke about relationships and what often happens to the garden of love over time.

One of my favorite cartoons is The Lockhorns. The marriage doctor asks, "What started the fight?" The indignant husband leans forward with a scowl and answers, "Marriage!"

Told you it was an unnatural act. On the other hand I have been married for 46 years and am quite happy as is my wife, all things considered. Perhaps unnatural acts require superhuman(e) strengths. Start building those emotional muscles today. And for goodness sake, weed those gardens together.Start right now. Text, email or call your life partner with some loving words and follow them up with loving actions.



Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

PRIORITIZING OUR CHECKS

REPOSTED FROM MAY:

It is interesting to me how these blogs come together in interesting and unplanned ways. Typically, I don't have a clue what I am going to write about until I sit down at the typewriter. Like a composer at a piano working on a song, the words just start to flow. Like Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune I usually do a weeks worth at a time. Sometimes the content is similar from day to day for the week and other times it varies.

I began this week talking about checking things out in the context of a bill. Without thinking about it the rest of the week was really about checking things out in your relationship to preserve the garden of love. When you think about it the latter is far more important than the former. I'd rather get ripped off for $9.99 a month than end up in divorce court (which by the way is the rip off of all rip offs!).

Oddly enough I bet that most people spend more time and energy checking out the mundane and basic stuff than they do checking and weeding their garden of love. Now that's just plain silly. We gotta check it all!

Enjoy a loving weekend. I will continue blogging about relationships next week.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, August 16, 2010

BECOMING A BETTER GARDENER

REPOSTED FROM MAY:

In marriage and other long term relationships it is easy to take one's partner for granted. In the courtship stage we put our best feet forward. Over time those same feet start to stink as we ignore the basics of love.

I always say, love is a verb. It is easier to say , "I Love You," than demonstrate it consistently over time. If we went door to door I guesstimate that over 80% of couples have at least one partner feeling their needs are not being met. Similarly, but for children, religious beliefs, financial issues and other practical concerns the divorce rate would be much higher than its current 50%.

Take a step back and look objectively at your partnership. Stop blaming it on him/her.Are you doing everything you can to show your partner, respect, affirmation and loving friendship? Do you want a better relationship? Do you want the relationship to continue? If you answered No, Yes, Yes now is the time to step back into the relationship with a fresh perspective and a new set of re-courtship goals. Find those loving feet and put them forward again. You can do it if you want to. In all likelihood it will be appreciated and reciprocated.

As I have said before, the garden of love needs the equivalent of sunshine, water, fertilizer and weeding.To experience the flowers of love, you need to be a better gardener. You once were. You can be that person again. I am optimistic about that--realistically optimistic.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, August 13, 2010

MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT

REPOSTED FROM MAY:

Yesterday I said, "marriage is an unnatural act." For those who don't go back to read the original article (williampenzer.com: A Realistic View of Marriage and Divorce)here's why I said that.

In just about every other zone of human experience variation seems to be an important factor. We wear different clothes, read different books, seek out different activities,go different places, etc. The human animal seems to crave variety. Even the inveterate golfer doesn't only play golf.

In marriage, there is minimal variation unless the couple builds that in through concerted effort. I am, by the way, not just referring to sex here. I am referring to patterns of communications, shared activities, domestic responsibilities,etc.Spicing things up, in and out of the bedroom is important to counter the monotony and boredom that can set in.

Years ago, in a previous life I was an organizational psychologist for IBM. One of the projects I worked on was called job enrichment. Its intent was to build in more varying aspects to a routine job so it didn't become repetitious and boring. I would encourage the same mindset in engaging in marriage enrichment. Take a look at your relationship and see what kind of variety you can build into it to add stimulation and excitement. Might be something fun to work on together.

Tomorrow, let's talk about taking each other for granted. That will grow weeds real fast in your garden of love.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, August 12, 2010

CALLING THE MARRIAGE DOCTOR

REPOSTED FROM BEFORE:

I am struck by the number of young couples together more than 10 years who are struggling. It seems as if life sucks out their love for each other. The pressures and stresses of work and finances combined with those of raising children in a more complex and demanding world leaves no time to nurture the garden of love.

Instead, communications fail,distance and disconnects creep in and stink weeds grow tall where beautiful flowers once flourished naturally. Dreams of the past become nightmares for the present and future.

A big problem is combined couple complacency. The erosion is allowed to linger unchallenged for much too long.If your kid had a fever for months and months that continued for years and years you would not allow it to go unchecked. If your marriage has a fever call a marriage doctor ASAP. So much depends on getting help in a timely fashion. In the garden of love too many weeds can choke it, keeping it from ever growing back. That is both irresponsible and sad for all concerned.

In many ways marriage is an unnatural act as I argued 20+ years ago (see williampenzer.com:A Realistic View of Marriage and Divorce). But so, I am afraid, is divorce, especially when young and innocent children are caught in the middle of the weeds.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

I REALLY GET A CHARGE OUT OF IT

It used to be that when you went away you made sure to take enough underwear, socks and whatever other clothing and toiletries you would need. Now, in addition to that you need the phone charger and car phone charger and camera charger and video camera charger and computer charger and kindle charger and the kids need their I whatever chargers.

Then you get to where you are going and there is no reachable plug, but for the one that will shut off the only lamp.

Kudos to the person who invents one charger for all our gear. Double kudos for the person who leaves all their gear home and just has a non electronic fun time. That one is a little scary so triple kudos for them.

Bye 4 Now,

Bill

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

A REALLY GOOD ANSWER

Having been a robot all these years(see new article on williampenzer.com Taking Better Care of You: Part II) I have no clue who Anna Paquin is other than she is an actress. But when interviewed by Time Magazine they asked, If you could go back in time, what advice would you give to the Anna of 10 years ago?

She responded, "I don't really pretend to have anything particularly figured out. I'm just living my life as it comes. I guess whatever I did in the past got me here, so it was probably O.K."

Think about it and see if you agree with her. I like its "in the moment" simplicity and acceptance that the past is over, the future is ahead and that we got to where we are, if we are pleased with where we are is a really peaceful place to be.

Buy For Now,

Bill

Monday, August 9, 2010

NOT ALL B'S ARE ALIKE

I went to Best Buy to return something that didn't work. The young woman behind the customer service counter rather rudely told me, "It's more than 30 days. We don't take it back!" "Oh", I said, "so the fact that it doesn't work has nothing to do with it?" "That's right", she said, "our policy is 30 days." The B's bite there.Maybe should add one for Bitch!

The next day I went to Bed Bath and Beyond. I previously blogged about their interesting store. It is like a museum of modern useful stuff. I had to return a vacuum cleaner that destroyed all of our new carpeting. Google Shaw Carpet and Dyson to get the scoop. Get this. We had bought it in December of 09. I immediately asked to speak to a manager because of that and I was told, "We have a no hassle return policy. No problem".

Wow. What a difference a B makes. Maybe the "Best" is an overstatement in the first place?

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, August 6, 2010

Check Last Nights Post

Ha Ha Ha. I left the country yesterday after my blog. Try and catch me now Hillary. My son (and his three pit bulls) are house sitting so don't get any funny ideas.But Jewish people don't really have pit bulls. Watch out though as he can hurl a matzo ball at you that is deadly!

I am in France so take note Sara P. As I previously promised if you get elected I stay right here! You scare me more than Saturday's wedding.You and your tea party are a Vodka party in the making. Go back to Alaska and search for Russia. If you look closely you will find me there in a couple of weeks.

Have a good month. If you live in South Florida pray for cool. Also pray for health and for Jake and for us all as we truly deserve to be among the blessed.

Bye(truly) For Now,

Bill

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Saturday Night Fever

People seem to have a belief that Saturday night is a time to party and have fun. Tonight is Chelsea's wedding. Who cares? They are spending gobs of money to fete a small moment in time. Better to celebrate in a few years that the marriage made it, if in fact it does.I certainly hope she does better than her parents.I wonder how much they spent on their wedding and whether they feel it was worth the price?

Now, that I didn't get invited has nothing to do with my comments.I wouldn't have gone anyway. I'm not a party animal even on Saturday nights. I'd rather stay home and blog.

Bye For Now,

Bill

PS I hope I don't get a call from the secret service or the IRS!! OK guys I would have gone if they invited me, but my gift would have been a copy of my article, "Becoming Partners!" I hope they do at 3+million for the affair. They better or else all the guests get their gifts back.Perhaps they can get some sound advice from the Gores? OK slip the handcuffs on now thank you very much. Hope you had a good Saturday night.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

WHY DO WE WAIT?

I am involved in many situations where health is a serious issue.

As the subject asks why do we wait to be kind and to show we care? When trauma and tragedy strikes it pulls on our heart strings and we respond accordingly. That is lovely but....why can't we be there for others and care for others and show love for others everyday--not just on a bad day or during a bad time?

Stretch just a little today for someone you care about and love just because-not because they are in trouble and having a bad time.Show you care just because you do.

Bye for Now,

Bill

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

NO NEWS IS GOOD NEWS

I just realized that I have stopped watching or reading the daily news for about a
month now.

I did this once before and then and now find myself in a better mood, happier and less stressed. The way I describe the news is "The hurricane is coming...The Hurricane is Coming...THE HURRICANE IS COMING.... RIGHT AT YOUR HOUSE, BILL!!! oh it is not really coming it has blown out to sea...

Almost all news seems designed to excite, agitate and provoke negativity with an occasional sappy story thrown in for effect. It's not just about hurricane potentials, it seems to be about almost everything. How much of the sad details did we really need to know about the BP disaster or even Tiger's fall from grace?

Better to stay away from this toxic waste.

I do read Time Magazine each week just to stay aware, but they write in a much less histrionic fashion. People Magazine on the other hand..... I'd rather watch the news!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, August 2, 2010

DAVE BARRY IS KILLING ME

Had a break today and had my handy Kindle with me (see previous blogs) and read Dave Barry's chapter on the state of our health care (hilarious). I kept having to put the Kindle down to dry my happy tearful eyes.

Then I read his funny, but serious essay on getting a Colonoscopy and he nailed me dead (actually alive) on. I almost pooped my pants, just as I almost did when I took the clean out stuff. I, however, took mine with Chardonnay. The doctor approved it as a clear liquid.

Anyway, you need to read Dave in, "I'll Mature When I'm Dead", which is a really an immature title for such a bright guy. I guarantee you will LOL OAOA (over and over again).

Bye for Now,

Bill

Friday, July 30, 2010

TICKLING MY FUNNY BONE

If you have followed my blogs or read at least three you have probably surmised that I am a pretty serious guy. I would think I was just born that way, although as a kid play ruled my life. My father died when I was 18 and everything shifted to serious and somber. I switched from comic books to important books in a microsecond of time.

I have made great strides in this and soon there will be an article on my web site I just finished called, Taking Better Care of You: I'm Not A Robot....Anymore. It is not a bad read if I do say so myself.

Being serious, however, it is not easy to cause me to laugh out loud (currently referred to as LOL). I appreciate good natured and effective humor but so many jokes are just not that funny. A book I just downloaded on my Kindle (see yesterday's blog) has me laughing till I cry. It is written by Miamiite (are there really 2 i's in that word?)Dave Barry. It is called, "I'll Mature When I'm Dead." The title drew me to it.

In it he essays about men and women and raising kids and visiting Miami as well as owning a dog. It is everyday life through the lens of a really funny guy. Laughing is healing so we are told. If that is truly the case then this book can cure you of whatever you are suffering. And, if it doesn't cure you it will sure distract you from the pains from which you experience.

Read it and weep happy tears of hilarity. Enter Dave's world and you will exit cleansed, refreshed, energized and happier. I am stopping here as I need to read another chapter.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, July 29, 2010

THERE IS KINDNESS IN A KINDLE

As an avid reader I received my Father's Day gift from my daughter and son-in-law with some apprehension. Would I be able to switch habits of over 60 years and read from a Kindle instead of a regular book?

The quick answer is that I have. All of a sudden it has become my new best friend. I take it with me to the beach and keep it beside me in my home. I read it soon after I awake and right before going to sleep. I find it fascinating. Between my home and office I must have 1500 books accumulated over a lifetime. They sit in place and acquire dust. My Kindle can store that many. This little, light weight piece of technology is a heavy weight.

And it remembers my place-no book mark needed. And it allows me to jump from book to book as is my habit. And the download is complete in mini seconds.And when I travel it is a lot easier than schlepping two hard covers and three soft covers and a variety of magazines. All I have to take is my Kindle.

And best of all whenever I read I think about my lovely daughter and her wonderful husband. Do you think that is why they bought me such a generous gift? I sure hope so.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

SORE LIKE A PERSON

trying to soar like an Eagle. Yesterday's blog contained some good words. But trying to soar is hard and can drain us dry. Not all days allow for soaring.

However, once you get the hang of it you have more good days than not. Consider this simple minded analogy. If I clean my car I tend to keep it clean. If it is a mess of papers,empty bags, half drunk water bottles, etc. I tend to make it messier. Mess and emotional cess pile up upon itself. Dam grams beget more of the same.The latter are equivalent to soaring. The former are equivalent to crashing.Being optimistic and positive help us to gain altitude as we gain attitude.

So my point is that once you start soarng the likelihood is you will do that more often. As pride bank deposits build up they feed more of the same. Kinda like a diet. Once you get in that groove nothing can tempt you out of it.

The secret to diets and life is to find that grove and rhythm and keep soaring high...like a you know what.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

A QUOTE WORTH READING AND ASPIRING TOWARD

Like the eagle, once we have learned to soar it almost seems effortless.

More on this tomorrow.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Monday, July 26, 2010

THE F WORDS

Thursday and Friday I blogged about Forgiveness.

Funny(it starts with F) enough I can't remember the other two F words I was going to blog about. One of the Frustrations (another F word) of getting older is that memory becomes Fragile (F again). If you don't write it down you don't quite remember. You can walk into a room with a clear need and in a flash have no clue why you came in to the room.

Then I went to blog and couldn't get on to it even though I used the right user name and pass code. I wanted to scream the F word loudly. I resisted the temptation because I realized none of it was all that important in the scheme of things.Most things aren't and it always helps to see things in perspective. Save your emotional energy for times that truly deserve it.

I will finish up the F word blogs as soon as I remember the words or find the sticky note on which I wrote them. FAGETTABOUTIT!

Bye For Now,

Bill

Friday, July 23, 2010

THE SAME F WORD

Yesterdays blog dealt with forgiving oneself for real or imagined imperfections.

The same is really true in dealing with others. Obviously, a few actions or words that others do or say may not be forgivable. But I always liked what Oprah said a few years ago(though I am not a big fan and no one person should earn 300+ million a year). What she said once was, "Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you have to invite them over for potato salad."

What that means to me is that you can forgive someone and thereby get rid of the angst and the anger, but don't have to be their friend or have anything to do with them again. I like that idea.

Hope you do too. If not, I forgive you none-the-less.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Thursday, July 22, 2010

THE F WORDS

The first is Forgiveness. It is very important that we be able to forgive ourselves. So many are so hard on themselves. Reality can be easily distorted as people scream at themselves for perceived shortcomings and mistakes.

Truth is we all make mistakes. Hindsight is easy. Foresight comes more slowly if at all. When we yell at ourselves or ruminate at our supposed "failures" it is usually our parent's voice that takes over. Most would reassure a friend for the very thing they rail at themselves.

Try to catch yourself being a "hard" marker and lighten up a bit. Give yourself credit for trying and for past successes in the very area you are now beating yourself up. Remind yourself you are a person who is most likely dedicated to others more than yourself. The not so nice people of the world rarely, if ever, criticize themselves as they are too busy blaming others for their faults and failings.

Try to be more a cheer leader than a jeer leader for yourself. The odds are you deserve that and the odds are your rational mind knows you do.

More F words tomorrow.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

YOU JUST NEVER KNOW

what's coming around the corner. I have said that before and I am saying it again and I will probably keep saying it BECAUSE....it is true and because

that awareness helps guide you toward taking better care of you in all respects. Much as we need to be opTIMistic we also need to be realistic. You know what (sh__) happens, especially when we least expect it. Most of the time we can't predict or prevent it.

All we can do is take better care of ourselves. That is really all we can do. So please do it. The likelihood is your self deserves it and your self will appreciate it.

Bye For Now,

Bill

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

ON BECOMING A COMMUNICATIONS CLARIFIER

From time to time I notice how complex even simple communications can become. I schedule appointments and confirm via voice mail or email. Most of the time it works just fine, but sometimes it gets really confusing. The response I get doesn't jibe with the message I left or sent. Then I need to recall or re email. Ultimately it gets resolved and clarified.

My point, however, is if something as simple and straightforward as an appointment time can get so screwed up, we can only imagine how more complicated communications can become tangled and a source of stress, strain and confusion.

Become a communications clarifier. "Did I understand you to say....?", Is what you mean....?", Help me understand....?", "Say again...".

Asking simple questions at confusing times solves much of the communication gap and clarifies the message.

Of all the human functions in which we engage, nothing is as critical and as confusing as communications. Aim to set the record straight so you and whomever are on the same page or the same sentence.

Bye For Now,

Bill